by Carmen Harra
While most decisions should be supervised by our rational mind, there also exist those that we should seldom hesitate to take …
Decisions are the building blocks of life
Each day we must make choices on matters small and large: where to go for dinner and who to marry; what toothpaste to buy and what career to pursue. Clearly, some decisions are more critical in shaping our lives than others. But thankfully there are no fixed decisions. What is right and true varies based on individual needs and circumstances.
No one can choose but you
Before automatically reaching conclusions, reflect on these four golden rules of decision-making:
- Timing is everything
- Listen to yourself
- Prioritize and balance
- Forecast your outcome
While most decisions should be supervised by our rational mind, there also exist those we should seldom hesitate to take. These are always wise choices, guaranteed to improve the full spectrum of being according to unfailing principles:
1. Keep lifelong relationships
Lifelong relationships are nothing short of admirable, from timeless friendships, marriages of many years, and long-standing partnerships.
There is a rare richness in remaining loyal to the people whose faithful presence has withstood the test of time. Being able to maintain steady relationships also speaks volumes about you as a person.
When you enter a relationship – of the personal, business, or friendly kind – enter it with the mentality that this human bond should become a lasting part of your life.
2. Invest, don’t waste
We all make financial mistakes, but the key is to learn from previous spending errors. As a rule of thumb, it is better to invest in things that grow in value in time instead of splurging on items that depreciate immediately.
A good example would be buying a home instead of unnecessary luxuries. Investing and not wasting can also be applied to time. Be mindful of the ways in which your minutes, hours and days are consumed.
3. Care more for yourself
We are all urged to “take care” of ourselves but few of us put this phrase to use. Indeed, we battle ourselves senselessly day by day, consumed in stress, doubt and self-blame. We are overworked and under-appreciated. But we can opt to appreciate ourselves through simple actions which promote our own well being.
Take 30 minutes out of your day, each day, to pamper yourself through exercise, good company, a relaxing massage or whatever activity helps ease your thoughts. List your priorities and place your own health first.
4. Have children
You don’t have to have your own children to invest in the youth of the world. Becoming a mother or father figure, sponsoring a child, or adopting a little one are actions of equal value.
Invest in a young person in whom you believe wholeheartedly, be it your biological child or not. Becoming a positive force in the life of a child will prove to be a choice providing endless joy.
5. Seek your life purpose
We are all born with a greater purpose, though few of us are aware of it. Seek your mission by understanding what you were born to do and incorporating your inherent talents and natural abilities into your routine.
Though we may not all be able to make a career out of our calling, we can certainly introduce our vocation into our lives through hobbies, volunteer work, creative projects, or a part-time job.
6. Thrive on faith
The decision here is not necessarily to align yourself with one religion, but to alleviate difficulties through constant faith. Having faith simply means that believing that your problems will resolve and that you will be shown what actions you must take. Thrive on faith to transcend all trials.
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7. Become an architect
Architects are visionaries in that they use their mind’s eye to foresee a beautifully finished project before the work has even begun. Whether they are constructing a house or building, an architect will lay out a blueprint of their pending masterpiece with uncanny precision.
In this way you must become the architect of your own life, envisioning your planned achievements and strategising a solid plan to help them manifest. By becoming an architect in metaphor, you can carefully craft your future according to your highest vision. Adopt the mentality of a skillful creator and apply it daily to expand your current version of yourself.
8. Stand up for yourself
You will never regret the decision to stand up for your rights, your worth and your own beliefs. Make your voice heard in polite but firm ways. Empower yourself by knowing you possess undying strength to forge ahead.
Stand up, in particular, against three things: conventions, limitations and injustice.
9. Break your patterns
To a varying extent, we are all stuck in certain patterns: you may subconsciously attract the same kinds of relationships or situations into your life. Breaking your patterns involves first analysing their source then implementing new actions that produce new results. Revised decision-making lies at the core of ending negative cycles of behaviour.
Decisions are inseparable from everyday life. By following the golden rules of decision-making, we can avoid making erroneous moves. And, although our choices will usually be based on our individual needs, there are several infallible decisions we should make without thinking twice, knowing that they will only reinforce positivity for us and others.