This is how you can tell your man is really into you

Once upon a time Oprah had this to say:… “If a man wants you, nothing can keep him away. If he doesn’t want you, nothing can make him stay….” Read the rest here

There are good men and good women with pure intentions however rare, they are there. There are healthy relationships that really work as well.

One Capital Lifestyle reader needed to brag a little about her man who she believes was sent to her straight from the heavens. Here is what she had to say about her man:

My man is amazing. His name is Jack. I met Jack on some random Sunday as I was leaving my friends place for her hen night that had taken place the previous night. It had been a crazy night full of laughter and I ended up spending the night there. I was headed to the bus stop and at the gate this cute guy driving this hot sports car passes by and asks if I wanted a lift to wherever I was headed. I have to mention that he had me at ‘hi, you need a ride to wherever?…” His dental formula was impeccable, and when he lowered his sunglasses to reveal the most gorgeous eyes I almost ran back to my friends house to try catch my breath and blush but then all of a sudden I got this strange feeling that maybe he was vertically challenged!

It was quite sunny and dusty so saying no to a ride in a hot stranger’s hot car would be a very bad idea. When I got inside the car, he explained how he had been bored in the house so he decided to go buy some DVDs in town. I was headed to town so that was a win-win situation for me. When we got to town, he got out of the car to open my door and I realized he wasn’t short at all! I almost did some cart wheels. Plus have I mention that he looked like he was around the ripe age of 30-33 and there was no ring on his finger? Perfection right there! He took my number and promised to look me up on Facebook and maybe it’s time to mention that we have been together for a good 2.3 years now.

It has been a good relationship. No stresses because we understand each other. We are friends. We talk, we communicate, we share ideas and above all we respect each other.  I specifically love the fact that he has been consistent in his ways since the very first time we met.

This is what makes me certain that he is a man in love. A girl is allowed to brag a little isn’t she?

  1. Chivalry is not dead

*There is still a lot of door opening and seat pulling. Yes! 2.3 years later.

*I get to have Sunday breakfast in bed every second Sunday of the month courtesy of him. Even if it means ordering in from wherever.

*He makes dinner every other Thursday and he will take care of everything including doing the dishes afterwards.

2. He respects me, everyone and everything in my life

*My opinions count as he is ever seeking a second opinion before he takes on a project

*He is sensitive to everyone’s feelings. He respects my friends and family. That’s  including my younger siblings.

*He respects my apartment- He never brings his friends to my house because he knows they’ll just piss me off. He entertains them at his house when need be.

*He respects my car – Compared to what he drives, my car is just something with four wheels and a steering wheel. But sometimes he borrows my car when his is at the garage. And what’s more? I will always find a full tank which is always his way of saying thank you.

3. He is very supportive

*He is ever telling me how I will make it big in life one day and every time I decide to do something he will always be my number one supporter.

*He shows me off to all his friends and colleagues.

4. …And other little things…ok big things

*He lets me know that he loves me every single day

*I have met all his friends, most of his family and even his colleagues

*He does garage duty on my behalf

*He sends me random texts and returns my texts asap.

*He remembers important dates and not once have I had to remind him of a special occasion.

*He makes sure I never go to bed angry. He will drive for miles just to come and settle things.

*He can hold my purse while I rush off somewhere and doesn’t care about the stares he gets because of that. He knows it’s not his so…

*He doesn’t mind being told he is “whipped” when he blows off the boys to hang out with me once in a while because he knows that isn’t the case.

*He knows I love shoes and the exact type of shoes I like, so when he comes across shoes he knows I’d love he’ll make sure they are in my possession. My last 6 pairs of shoes are all courtesy of him.

You know what I do for him in return,I am his friend, I give him his space and audience and I recently learnt how to make chapatis just because he loves them so much. I think he was just raised right… so hats off to his mama. Good men like my Jack do exist.


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  1. Avatar POJES September 14th, 2012 at 3:18 pm

    LMAOOOOO!!! Endelea kuota!!!!
    Kwanza do you even know how you make your man look when you make him hold your purse?
    Dream on girl dream on!!

  2. Avatar Muri September 14th, 2012 at 3:22 pm

    I agree, my boyfriend is exactly the same. Am thankful for him every single day!!

  3. Avatar Neva Mind September 14th, 2012 at 3:34 pm

    Good 4 U. However not to be a pessimist when you get in the same house (Married) is when You will truly know Your Man.

  4. Avatar lussiana September 14th, 2012 at 6:18 pm

    good for you..i wish i had a man like that..mine has never introduced me to any of his friends or colleaugues and its been a year and a half..lucky you

    1. Avatar praka September 18th, 2012 at 12:12 pm

      baby gal, run for the hills

  5. Avatar maina kageni September 17th, 2012 at 10:25 am

    Balanced just like those facts given on twitter @muleim

  6. Avatar Moris Wandei September 17th, 2012 at 5:13 pm

    The task remains with you; work hard and tirelessly to sustain it

  7. Avatar jlouis September 21st, 2012 at 9:09 am

    mmmh! how perfect! but yes u still live in different houses!

  8. Avatar Mara September 21st, 2012 at 9:15 am

    this Jack sounds really good….hooope you are good to him too…Lakini this thing of guys holding you purse sielwei hata! Who was holding your purse when you were single….it doesnt even make the slightest sense….

  9. Avatar Real G October 10th, 2012 at 12:02 pm

    Eh..this sounds like a fairy need to tell us his downsides no human being is perfect


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