In the journey of life, finding a partner who truly understands and values you is crucial. Marriage is not merely a union of two individuals but a commitment to mutual respect, empathy, and growth. To ensure a fulfilling and harmonious relationship, it’s essential to marry a man who comprehends and upholds these principles.

William Wachira, a marriage counselor and Facebook contributor, shares 10 indispensable qualities that every woman deserves in her partner, illustrating what it means to be truly cherished and respected in marriage.

THE MAN TO MARRY

1: Marry a man that has sense enough to know that paying your bride price is not equal to buying you.

2: Marry a man who has sense enough to know that by marrying you, he is not doing you a favour.

3: Marry a man that has sense enough to know that you pose to have cramps and mood swings during your monthly circle, and shouldn’t use it against you.

4: Marry a man who has sense enough to know that as a woman you also have a right to say “NO” to sex at times and if he must have his way he should at least try to make you happy and put you in the mood.

5: Marry a man who has sense enough to know that after childbirth you are posed to have stretch marks, big stomach, sag boobs and not too good shape, and he shouldn’t because of that compare you to a sweet 16.

Your sag boobs or stretch marks is a sign of motherhood. (Although you can work it out and be back to shape which is proper.)

6: Marry a man who has sense enough to know that there are times you are just too tired to cook, and him taking you to the eatery to eat dinner or him fixing the meal that day to save you the stress is not a taboo.

7: Marry a man who has sense enough to know that you have a right to voice out your frustration, a right to agree and disagree, a right to air your opinions.

8: Marry a man who has sense enough to know that you deserve to hear “sorry” from him and he’s obliged to plead and ask for forgiveness when he errors and not use his headship as a means to escape saying “sorry.”

9: Marry a man who has sense enough to know that hitting a lady is a crime against humanity.

10: Marry a man who loves your soul not just your body, marry a man who enjoys talking to you even without touching your body, not someone who cannot talk to you without touching you. May you not miss it in marriage.

(Author, William Wachira- a marriage counselor)