Narcissists, Controllers, Drama magnets, Energy vampires, Compulsive liars, and Overly jealous and judgmental people are not the only people with toxic traits. We all have toxic traits here and there that we may not even be aware are toxic.
A toxic person is anyone whose behavior adds a negative vibe and upset to anyone’s life. Oftentimes, you will find that people who are toxic are dealing with their own stresses and traumas in life so they project onto others and act in ways that don’t present them in the best light and usually upset others along the way.
One becomes a toxic person when they have many toxic traits to them and make no effort to change themselves and hurt others while at it and don’t even care. Toxic traits that you didn’t know are toxic look like settling for less, not speaking up for yourself, perfectionism, and not allowing yourself to grow… and it is important to note them in ourselves, be able to call ourselves out, and adjust our behaviors in order to be better people.
It is also important to note that when we are not kind to ourselves, we are likely to project that negativity onto others which might end up hurting other people’s feelings.
With that, here are 31 toxic traits to help you identify your toxic traits as well as figure out whether you are a toxic person.
- Arrogance
2. Attention-seeking behavior
3. A sense of entitlement
4. Being overly competitive
5. Being untrustworthy
6. Being a “pick-me” person
7. Cheating
8. Comparing yourself to others
9. Guilt-tripping
10. Holding grudges
11. Holding onto loss
12. Insincerity
13. Inflexibility
14. Ignoring self-care
15. Jealousy (extreme)
16. Judging others
17. Lying
18. Manipulation
19. Not speaking out (for yourself/others)
20. Negative self-talk
21. Phubbing
22. Perfectionism
23. Playing the victim
24. People-pleasing
25. Participating in drama
26. Resisting new experiences
27. Reliving the past constantly
28. Selfishness
29. Seeking the validation of others
30. Taking everything personally
31. Toxic positivity
32. Worrying about the future
PS: It always begins with ourselves. Showing ourselves genuine self-love and self-compassion will always make us better people and we can therefore project that goodness onto others around us.