Who said nice guys finish last?

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(SHIRO GAITHO) You’ve gotta admit it. There’s something really hot about the bad boy. Maybe it’s the attitude. Ok it’s definitely the attitude. Because bad boys are not all good-looking. Hell some of them are just downright nasty-looking. But they always have a horde of girls ready to take their (expletive). Some girls overwhelmingly shallow. Some surprisingly smart. But all unfortunately silly. Silly to think they’ll make him fall in love and have him change for them. He won’t. But he always finds a way to make you think he will.

I’ve been a fan of the bad boy. Ok fine, the bad boys, they’re a number. In fact I don’t think I’ve ever dated a nice guy. Maybe one. But he wasn’t even particularly good looking. And he didn’t have the attitude. So only my college girl heart can point that out. Because I cannot for the life of me remember what I saw there. No, hold on. He looked really good in his uniform. And I have a thing for uniforms (confession: I think even the G4S uniform, on a nice body, looks good haha!). And backs. And lips. And white v-neck t-shirts. And nice-fitting biker jackets. The way the leather moulds around those shoulders, good heavens it’s hot! But he was an ass. A thieving ass for that matter. Sometimes I think about it and wonder whether I have a character judgment defect. A flaw. A gene I miss.

Anyway, I think I might be growing up. I’m done with the bad boy. Done with the drama. Done with it all. Not sure I miss it. Probably because I learnt that there exists the good boy who can still keep me interested. You see, I’ve always equated the nice guy to being boring. A pushover. A guy with as much character as a sponge. Probably the same conversation as well.

But I was wrong. I met an interesting nice guy. A gentleman. A guy who can make me laugh. A lot. His sense of humour is wicked! He likes to shop. He likes to try out new things. He’s cooked for me. More than once, without me asking. He’s smart, and does the sweetest things. Like giving me attention, and I’m a sucker for attention! But the sexiest thing about him, he’s not a pushover. He can call the shots. Stand his ground. And that always gets me, because I’m headstrong, and I like to push people just so I can see how far I can go before they crack.

A part of me thinks it’s too good to be true. Because they all start out like that, then not work out. And my opinion on relationships is a bit jaded. I’m not as eager to give a part of me as I once was. I used to be the girl that said “Go on, give it a shot. What do you have to lose?” But that was until I lost a part of me. Gave some of me to someone, only to have it crash and burn like a freaking meth lab. It hurt. A lot. Not because it didn’t work out. Naa, that’s life. We move on. But because I thought I had read the person right. Only I hadn’t. And I don’t want that to happen again.

But a part of me is willing to give it a chance. What have I got to lose? Another piece of my heart? I don’t think so. I choose to look at it as a risk, a risk that might be worth it. A risk my heart wants to take. A risk I think about all the time. A risk that’s turning out good so far. A risk that I should probably stop thinking about and just feel. A risk that I don’t remember how I ended up taking, but which I’m thoroughly enjoying.

He may be a nice guy. But he’s not just any nice guy. He’s my nice guy. I’m the prize. If he works at it, earns it, he gets me. So who the hell said nice guys finish last? In this race, where I call the shots, make the rules, the bad boys finish last. And I don’t want to be associated with number last.

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  • someone that you used to know

    If he does end up keeping your heart, won’t he be the “last” guy you date 🙂 Just saying….

  • mohammed

    Very true my brother….every country has its immigration laws if you are a Kenyan Somali or an Investor with proper documents you need not worry…if you are an asylum seeker or a refugee with refugee status you belong to refugee camp; but if you are illegal immigrant our law is very clear you must be deported…I don’t understand why our leaders are making noise oohhh racial profiling, muslim been targeted , economic sabotage and blah blah blah …Hope they will come back to their sense

    • Guest

      This is the way you are commenting on this article, while your people (Kenyan-Somalis) are harassed and being profiled by the Kenyan government and its corrupt police officers. Shame on, you just nothing, but a looser, who doesn’t know anything.

      • mohammed

        Who are ” your people”….if you mean Kenyan Somalis I know they are treated with utmost respect they deserve and I can attest to that because I live in Nairobi and I witnessed the said ”profiling” You can say I am a looser who doesn’t know anything a thousand times but the fact remains.Good citizenship includes the civic duty to uphold religious freedom for all. Religious liberty rights are best guarded when each person and group takes responsibility to guard not only their own rights but the rights of others, including those with whom they deeply disagree. This respect for the rights of others is not indifference to theological or moral disagreement, but rather a civic virtue necessary to maintain peace in a religiously diverse society.
        Why not condemn the killing of other Kenyans by alshabab with the same zeal

        • Guest

          Mohammed,

          Let us be realistic brother. How could you support ethnic profiling and harassment against certain community, which is Somali community whether they are Kenyan-Somalis or Somalis from Somalia, the world have seen Kenya’s hypocrisy. Police arrested women, children, men and the elderly, is that the way a government can fight with terrorism?,. We strongly condemn the killing of innocent Kenyans by the terrorists, but the reaction of that should be done in accordance with the law.

    • Ahmed Ali

      ok u talk but u for get what polis done in garisa sugmugdi and what going in mambasa is it bah bah bah bah bah bah bah bah bah bah then remember what hapen in turkana they kill 42 polis what the govenment done there pls open uare mined also garisa why government targeting only or ssomalies community ?

    • mursal

      stupid north-eastern dickhead. i dont even know if you are real kenyan-somali. u may just used the pic and the name. btw am one of those pple you telling what the crappy,corrupt non-humane law says and i should say this, we r here temporarily and we will leave your ass here. you forgot you and those nappy hair ugly ass mother fuckers benefited our presence here.

    • calii

      we aint here taking your jobs or anything dump head! we are here with our money creating bussinesses for uneducated mothaphuka like you.

  • changiman

    It is simply racial profiling sanctioned by the government!

  • mia

    Mwenda Njoka, I read the article with a lot of attention until I saw your title and I was like……. you remind me of our Alfred Mutua of yesterday. he is now really a shamed of how he had used to do things. He hates those weekly briefing he made then to be replayed in any television today. Be objective and avoid things you can not repeat tomorrow if you leave the seat you are seated on now.

    • Mwenda Njoka

      MIA: for your information, believe you me, there is not a word I penned in that article that I cannot repeat whether I am working here or anywhere else… And in case you forgot, I know Ahmednasir is a good lawyer who knows libel when he sees it and what to when libeled… Should I say more Sir/Madam?

  • JJ

    Njoka failed to tell others that he was until he got this job (njoka is brother to mutea iringo) an employee of Ahmednasir

    • Mwenda Njoka

      JJ: for your information, I am not related to PS Mutea Iringo in any way apart from him being my boss… And also if you care to check out my professional background (feel free to Google me) you’ll get a better idea where I have been and what I have done for this country and democracy… True I worked as editor of NLM, but does that mean I cannot call a spade a spade because I did? Wake up and smell the coffee brother/sister as the case might be…

  • Moulid AhMED Mohamud

    Ahmednasir is rather better than you who is advocating for his community unlike you who came for just critism of an individual

    • Mwenda Njoka

      Moulid AhMED Mohamud: I was advocating for Kenya. Not a particular community. The criticism of an individual was a means to achieving an ends; that of advocating interests of Kenya which of course you know includes interests of all communities that live in Kenya

  • Mohamed Cgat

    HII M’MERU MWENDA NJOKA NI MJINGA AAAY

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