The Seven: Ways to prepare yourself for a great relationship

February is the month of love and many aspire to find the love of their lives at some point in their lives.

With many celebrities including Sauti Sol’s Bien Aime making public declarations of love,  finding your one true can be something that someone would want to have. But how do you prepare yourself for that perfect relationship?

Before you can find that perfect someone, you have to feel prepared to find him or her. So many people enter into relationships only to find that they are dating the wrong person. This often happens because we make some pivotal mistakes when we are single and seeking a romantic relationship.

The perfect relationship begins long before you’ve met that special someone. Take these seven suggestions as seen on this relationship blog, to heart and begin working on you.

1. Take time to really figure yourself out.
Think about who you are, not who you want to be. Think about what it is that you need, not what someone else may need. Spend time alone and feel good about it. Time in reflection and self-care goes a long way to building you up.

2. Be you.
When you are putting yourself out there to meet that special someone, be clear and go all out. Don‘t sugar coat it. Be who you are and seek others who do the same. Be true to who you are and show up as yourself.

3. Know what you are looking for, and what you are not.
Think about what is most important to you. Pick a few things that absolutely important to you to find in a partner or a few things that are absolutely important not to find in a partner. If you find someone that meets a few integral criteria, you can let go of the rest and compromise on things that aren‘t as vital.

4. Date.
Practice truly can make perfect. When you are preparing for an interview, you probably practice either with yourself or with a good friend. Dating casually can help in the same way. Learn what settings you feel most yourself in, and what settings make you feel uncomfortable. Learn more about what types of people you are drawn to and what types you‘d like to avoid. Get out there!

5. Strengthen your friendships, build on interests, and create a good support system.
Some people get into relationships and go ‘all in.’ They throw aside their own interests, friends and needs to be with someone. Having a sense of individuality is important even in the strongest of relationships. Make sure you build your life for you, not for finding someone else. If you build a life for you, that someone else will come and ideally, fit right in.

6. Don‘t settle.
You deserve to be with someone who loves you for you. You deserve to be with someone that makes you feel good about yourself, and who you like being with! Don‘t settle for anything less. Life is too short. Enjoy it. If you meet someone that doesn‘t feel great to you, move on.

7. Remember that ‘perfect’ may not always seem so.
Your ‘happily ever after’ may indeed come, but it probably won’t always be so happy. That’s OK. Relationships require a lot of work and attention. If you are looking for the ‘perfect’ relationship that doesn’t include any hardships, you’re going to be looking for quite a long time.

Good luck in finding that perfect relationship.