Relationships are beautiful and can be so fulfilling’ because of having that one person you can confidently call the one.
The one you call after having a bad, the one you want to spend not only a cozy and laid back weekend with but also the one who you want to find in the house every day when you get home from dealing with the world. That one person who the vibes are just right and the energies you guys share are everything.
Well, up until the end of the honeymoon stage, love is tested time and again. Couples often have their first fight, experience their first jealous fit and one may feel like the world is crumbling down because things are not the same.
One party or both are forced to compromise, feel like they are always the ones to forgive, feel vulnerable about bring issues up and eventually are left to face a nagging thought, is this really it for us? Are we done?
So how do you tell that it is the end of the road for you guys?
1.It is not fun anymore.
How? It just isn’t. Spending time together almost feels awkward. The conversations are bland and characterized by what feels like an inquisition.
The constant nagging, questioning, and unpleasant exchanges leave a bitter taste in one’s mouth and make it pretty clear that the relationship is at its end.
2. It is one-sided
The moment you feel like you are doing all the work, it, unfortunately, shows that he/she is not interested anymore. How? You are the one who is constantly making the calls, sending the text, using words of endearment and throwing tantrums for being made to feel vulnerable.
The relationship feels like work literally. Here’s an example, it’s been two days and he or she has not thought to give you a call or a text such that if you do not break the silence or ask for a date, you’d probably not hear from them ever.
Listen, if it’s just you, then know that it is not just you and recognize it’s time to hit the road.
3. You are sad
Here the relationship feels like it is wearing you down. Dying at how vulnerable you feel, exposed and needy. You do not feel like the normal you and are left almost obsessing over this relationship day and night. The situation is all you talk about with friends and you feel do burden at how things are between you two. In short, you are stressed.
The moment you feel this powerless and hopeless at your partner’s mercy, pack up and go.
Love should feel effortless even with its numerous hurdles. When it is right it feels right and when it doesn’t us all know and can tell. So ultimately, the decision to hold on or let go solely lies on you. Do what’s best for you.
