Getting into contact with your ex is always going to be dangerous in your life. It’s something that is complicated and can navigate your intentions and feelings. Always be careful before you start things up with your ex-lover.
Here are four things you need to think before you start texting your ex:
Am I doing this because I am heartbroken?
There is nothing bad like being heartbroken. It’s one of the hard times in a relationship that can make you recall your ex-lover and wish to get back together again. This is because you feel like your current lover is mistreating you and not loving you the way you wanted. Most of the time, the way a person reacts to pain can be very destructive. It is always good to analyze yourself and understand your situation before texting your former lover.
Am I texting my ex because I am feeling nostalgic?
Nostalgia is a very powerful emotion. A lot of people like looking back in their old good days in their life. This happens when most of them feel like their current life is not going as swiftly as it did before or as they expected. As a result, they found themselves tempted to reach out to their ex-lovers for more advice. The step might be good but not advisable since, at that moment, your vision is clouded by only the good. If you are looking back at your good days in a relationship, you have to look at the bad days also. This is to balance your understanding of a relationship. The wise men say ‘hindsight is 20/20’, so be sure to keep your vision clear.
Am I texting my ex because I am lonely?
Loneliness can hurt, often tempting many to go back to a relationship. It’s a feeling in life that can drive someone to the point of desperation. It sucks to be alone and can also make you feel like you’re unwanted in your current relationship. However, feeling lonely doesn’t mean you should try to reach out to your ex-lover. There are many things you can do whenever you are feeling lonely that will add a fulfillment in your life. At this moment of weakness, rely on your friends and family to help you get over the urge to reach out to an ex. Reaching out to your ex isn’t helpful as you would be only risking your peace and fooling yourself.
Am I texting my ex for answers?
Breakup is always a difficult life event to overcome. It is a situation in life that can make you cry and regret the whole of your life. Whenever a breakup takes place, it can be a very emotionally overwhelming experience. However, due to lack of experience in a relationship, you might be tempted to text your ex-lover to cope up with the breakup. This is because you believe in him/her. Although you feel like he/she might be of great help as a ‘special’ person in your life, always remember time heals all wounds. Take time away from your ex and find peace within yourself.