Tiffany Haddish has insisted marrying herself has made a “difference” to her life.
The 45-year-old star has documented her unconventional decision to self-marry in her new docuseries, Tiffany Haddish Goes Off, and she insisted that since she made a formal commitment to herself, she has been better at putting herself and her own needs first.
She told USA Today: “I used to not show up for myself, do everything for everybody else and not take care of me.
“And ever since I got married to me, baby, them boundaries − I see a difference in the way I wake up in the morning, and how I look in the mirror. When I look at myself, I see somebody who is whole, still fragile, but well taken care of.”
The Girls Trip actress revealed she first came up with the idea of self-marriage in 2018 when she was dating a man she described as a “buckethead”.
She recalled on the show: [He asked me] ‘How are you ever going to get you a husband if you don’t do what I tell you to do?’
“And I was like, ‘I’ll be my husband. I could take care of me better than you could.’”
Tiffany added to USA Today: “I started realising all these things I want from somebody else, I need to be giving to me. And if I’m able to do that, when that person shows up, it’s going to be so easy for us to come together.”
The ceremony is shown in the fifth episode of the Peacock series and sees Tiffany pledge to persevere, celebrate her triumphs and refuse to settle her less. She then marks her commitment by kissing a mirror and, in a nod to her Jewish ancestry, stepped on a glass.
But despite her self-marriage, the Night School star is open to finding love but has set her standards higher.
She said: “Everything that I’m doing for me − if a man can do that better than me, that’s my man!”
Tiffany revealed in the docuseries that she has suffered eight miscarriages and when it comes to starting a family now, the Haunted Mansion star – who was married to William Stewart from 2008 to 2013 – is open to “whatever God has in store”.
She added: “I feel like I’ve already raised a lot of kids.
“I’ve worked with thousands of children [in] the foster care system, (those) struggling at the youth center where I worked doing the bat and bar mitzvahs [as an entertainer]. I raised my brothers and sisters.
“I was married to a man that had kids, and those kids still keep in contact with me.
“At this point, I’m really satisfied with where I am.
“It’s crazy to say it out loud sometimes, but I am actually happy with where God has brought me. The journey that I’ve been on has made me really appreciate life, and really appreciate being a human.”
