When we think of a successful relationship, the first vision that comes to our mind is the picturesque moment of either our first kiss, wedding day or the first day our significant other moved in.
Most of the time we seldom take time to credit the very unromantic milestones, which may not be pleasant or idyllic, that couples must have passed through to get to that pinnacle of a successful relationship.
These are the developments that create a deeper level of intimacy, where we can learn of our spouses as real people and not the fantasy figures that we sometimes envisage when we come across a person we like.
1.Your first huge argument
As spiteful as it can be, the first real argument/fight with your significant other provides an opportunity to straighten your communication style with that person and also test how well the two of you can settle a disagreement.
2.Discovering your partner’s weird oddities and habits
Everyone has those little habits that they will never want to be disclosed. Such habits could be snoring in bed, drooling, hanging indoors naked or simply throwing around dirty laundry. Some of these oddities could be annoying but when you know them, you get to understand your partner better.
3.Seeing them without makeup for the first time
The first time you see your lady without makeup will prove whether you love that natural face or not. Some women, especially public figures, can’t do without makeup. A lady who’s serious with the relationship will present herself as, “Well, this is the real me! Do you love it or hate it?”
4.The very first ‘period talk’
Some men find this topic disgusting. We’ve watched news about some men committing suicide when denied coitus by their women who were on their ‘monthly flow’. While it’s a little bizarre having that discussion about menstruation cycle with your lady, it will at some point come up anyway, hence the need to prep up.
5.The past relationships
This breakthrough, although might be uneasy for some couples, provides the best time to get insights into how their previous intimate relationships were and why they ended, eventually.
6.The first time you decide to get brutally honest with them
Correcting someone doesn’t have to lead to a fight. Whether its inappropriate outfit, hairstyle or unpleasant body deodorant, it’s a perfect test to see how he/she takes in such constructive criticism. Telling them what they need to hear instead of what they want to hear is sometimes necessary.
Should your relationship survive all these nonromantic breakthroughs, then you will know it’s definitely true love.
