You kicked it off with a simple ‘hi’, jumped onto her WhatsApp chats and now you are playing nice and friendly with high hopes that your actions will eventually turn into a romantic relationship. Or more streetwise – the two of you will ‘become a thing’. So you linger, keeping in contact with awakening messages like, ‘I can’t wait to see you,’ or ‘I miss you already!’
The circle of intimacy is often broken when one of the lovers goes dark – cuts off communication. This setback may present mixed feelings, depending on the level at which your courtship could go.
Being friend-zoned means the person only see you as a friend and not a future intimate lover. But how do you make yourself lovable again? Breaking from a friend-zone takes guts and wits. When a lady, in your social sphere, sees you only as a friend, it takes a lot of convincing so as to rebrand yourself and gain her attention again.
1. Put a Limit on texts and calls
If you had developed a certain pattern of texting or calling her on a daily basis, stop. Interrupting that habit will make her start raising queries like, ’what happened to him?’ Besides, calling and texting someone every day creates boredom in that communication cycle.
2.Play hard to get
Men put themselves in the friend zone because they are too nice and easily available. I bet women don’t like guys who are not challenging. Humbly put, if she does not work for it, then you are not worth her time.
3. Stay cagey
The mystery is perfect for two people who just met. Some people spill every little secret they have during first dates! Stop revealing ‘the story of your life’ to people who are not close to you. You spoil the fun when she knows everything about you on the first date.
4. Show little interest or care
It may be fun and games in movies but this trick works in reality. Showing little interest in a lady you’ve been friends with for a while make you more puzzling, mysterious and harder to get. She might then take matters into her own hands and seek you out and develop a keen interest in you.
5. Put your emotions aside
Guys move from being potential boyfriends to suckers (an alternative to friendzone level) the moment they let their feelings get in their way or overwhelm them. The moment you say,’ we should talk about this…’ in reference to your friendship, she will know what you have in mind and find ways to avoid you.
