Girl meets boy. Girl goes crazy about boy. Boy is everything! So dreamy. Girl tells friends, friends shout…. “Play hard to get?”
Turns out seeming too interested or just interested in a guy is wrong? Girls new to the dating game are often told, “Don’t text back as fast, don’t call him, don’t text him first.” So what are we supposed to do when we are interested in a guy? Honestly, it is twisted how we are told to cheza chini. Don’t be too honest with your emotions. I call BS.
If you are intrigued, stirred, keen, struck, drawn to, interested that’s just it. This shows that you are indeed into this guy and clearly putting it out there that what you are looking for is something serious. And if you are acute enough, you can tell whether it’s a yes or nay.
In all honesty, the mind games are what wreck havoc on the courtship process. We are never ourselves because we are constantly playing by the book. Laws written by God knows who, about a relationship that they have no insight of. As a woman, I believe, one should be able to read a vibe and act accordingly. We have made relationships all about men, how to please them, how to keep them and so forth. What about the woman? What about what I want?
But ever wondered maybe there never should be a ‘how to’ in matters of the heart? If the spark is not there, it just isn’t and every woman alive can tell when the zing is right or not.
My take? Set yourself free from all these dos and don’ts. Write your own by doing your own. If you want to text do so, Call? Go ahead. Video chat? Go ahead and do it. This is the only way to really get a bearing of whether there is something or not.
We are constantly told to go for what we want but in relationships, but constantly play coy. As a 21st century woman, we should always be free to speak our truth, share our feels and never be afraid of love. The real one will come and stay.
