There is no right way of breaking someone’s heart, especially when you are hurting yourself.
It is tough to break up, to be sober, kind, and levelheaded with someone who’s caused so much pain but doing it right does gives you a chance to deal with it better.
It gives you closure, answers to your questions and confirmation that the decision you are making is the right one.
So your relationship is over but you’re not sure how to break up with someone you love? Here’s how to break up with someone, the right way and not feel like the devil.
Do it in person
A face-to-face conversation is without a doubt the way to go. Texts can be misinterpreted, taken out of context or misunderstood all together. Sitting down for a chat helps get things into perspective while allowing both parties the chance to express themselves honestly.
Ghosting is simply out of question. It is immature and inconsiderate. Instead, ask for some time and plan for the chat when ready.
Remain respectful
This is not the time to point out your partner’s weight or loud snores caused by their sinuses. Such distasteful words not only do damage to your partner but also haunt you after calming down. So, if or when the conversation gets heated, calm down for a time out before spewing hurtful words.
On the other hand, if there is history of exchanging words in the past, it would be prudent to lay ground rules before the conversation where both parties agree not to say hurtful or malicious words.
Be honest
Partners tend to shy away from confessing the reason for separation. This is especially so when the cause is considered unfair, out of the blue or random. Many therefore end up being vague in their communication which stings even more than the breakup.
It is unfair as it leads the aggrieved into the pits of overthinking which could trigger feelings of unworthiness. So, be honest and say it as is. That is closure they deserve.
Avoid the ‘cold shoulder treatment’
If the end goal is to have them break up with you by slowly pushing them to the edge. The strategy involves slowly detaching yourself from the person through a few ways that include , taking longer to text back, intentionally declining calls, cancelling plans and being outright rude.
It is cruel and inhumane. Extend grace and accord them the respect they deserve by being open about your desire to end the relationship.
Yes, there is no right way of doing it but, there is a full proof way of minimizing the damage. Remember break ups can break you, literally.
