A destructive relationship can actually affect all aspects of your life. But how do you know you are in a destructive relationship?
You might be doing your best to see things work but your partner seems to be walking away. People in destructive relationships need to consider their past. Here are five signs you’re stuck in a destructive relationship:
1. You constantly compare yourself with others
A relationship has endless challenges. However, do not stick with the wrong person simply because you feel others are also facing the same challenges. Whether you see other couples looking all boo’d up on social media or have seen others seem like they are in bliss, do not compare your relationship to others. If you feel you are unable to be with your partner, leave. You deserve to be happy. Never compromise when it comes to dating.
2. You stay hoping he or she will change
You partner may be rude, verbally abusive, or even violent. You may love them, but it is important that you value your well being first. Some of us are always hoping that our partners will change. You go through tough times but you remain hopeful that better things lie ahead, but these “better times” that you wait for with baited breathe may never really come. He or she might never change as you believe. In such sad situations, it is important to take courage, put yourself first and leave.
3. You try to find reasons to hold on
Never look for reasons to hold on. If he or she is not good for you, nothing is likely to change in the future. An unsuitable partner will only delay your success in life and keep you from living up to your full potential. Learn to let go of the love you hoped for, and find love in yourself.
4. You are always at fault
Guilt can haunt you in different ways. If you are ever guilty in your love life then you are missing the point. It is said in Corinthians 13:4 “Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs.” A relationship should always be a place to find love, forgiveness and understanding.
5. You fear to be single
Some people are in relationships because they fear to be single. It is no crime to be single. You rather remain single than the date the wrong person. The fear of being single should not make you compromise with your love life.