When you are about to be a parent, the first thing that we think about is how our
baby is going to be, seeing his/her tiny legs for the first time, witnessing his/her
the first grip on your finger, the first laugh, and the first words, will it be “Mama” Or
Once they grow up it’s a whole different thing, they become very distant because
they have school to deal with, they start asking for a later curfew because they have
a party to go to, it’s a whole lot and sometimes the connection you once had
Don’t worry, here are some ways you can bring back the connection you once
shared with your teenager;
Traditions are very important in a family, it gives time for you to understand your
family and just to check in on them and what is going on in their lives.
You can either create a mandatory family lunch once every week or play games
every night call it game night probably twice a night.
This is very important because it will create a safe space for them to be themselves
around you which will even increase their affection for you.
One thing teenagers appreciate is friendship, so open your doors to them, make
them feel welcomed. Talk about your teenage life, let them in, it will allow them to
even trust you with their problems.
3.Do Chores Together
Doing chores is not something a lot of teenagers look forward to, So do them
together. Make it a family thing, turn on the music, and enjoy each other’s company.
For girls, it is always fun being in the kitchen with your mother learning a new
recipe. So bring your teenager in for some help, it will create nice bonding time for
both of you. Sometimes it could even lead your teenager to open up about a boy she likes, or a teacher that is being mean to her at school. It’s a great opportunity for her to be honest with you.
Apart from all that teenagers want someone who can genuinely listen to what they
have to say, you have to come off not as judgemental but rational, teenagers
generally go through a lot of things, so you have to be comforting and
It is important for them to feel loved and cared for at all times.
As parents it’s very important not to blame ourselves, sometimes it can be
overwhelming but we have to remind ourselves that this is part of being a parent,
everything won’t be great but it will surely get better.