In the beginning God created the bullies and nerds. And the bullying was void and without form until someone else said, let there be Twitter! Now I just listened Lynda Nyangweso’s interview with Capital’s Wambui Ndoga. You can view the interview here. Truly sticks and stones will break your bones, but tweets cut right to the soul
Disclaimer, I do not support bullying and I did not tweet, retweet, subtweet or have anything to do with Nyangweso’s mauling on twitter (listen to the interview she makes it sound like it was a mauling). Now, bullying is evil, just as evil as terrorism but one’s dignity may be assaulted, vandalized and cruelly mocked, but it can never be taken away unless it is surrendered. And I blame Susan Mirfat, Lynda and their kind for stoking a bully’s fire place.
While these victims (and I use the term with respect) work to build a larger than life persona they forget that, the bigger they are, the harder they fall (no pun intended). The reason people exploit any flaw they find is because you come across as a perfect person, at least that’s what you presented. Joe Muchiri, a twitter big wig gets flak all the time, he laughs and moves on. We do not have journalists flocking to his desk and suicide watch putting him on their priority list.
I think the root of the problem here is: these people believe the persona they have sold the public. Lynda has the freedom of speech on her show and Susan has the freedom to not do fries on tujuane and KOT have freedom of tweet and wit. I of course feel for these people these jokes are by no measure civil but not being nice is not yet a crime and until it becomes a crime; another one shall bite the dust.
Let’s investigate Lynda Nyangweso. In her interview with capital she says people are judging her wrongly, true? I do not think so, KOT did not make up a lie, she admits ‘…it’s no secret I’m a big girl…’ And that’s what KOT went all out on, they did not say she is a bad person, that she is evil, it was all about her weight, (brace yourselves I’m about to use the F word) they said she is FAT, dang there goes the F word. Again in Lynda’s interview she says “I have younger cousins who look up to me and I didn’t know how to explain to them that if you don’t look like what they think you should look like, you’re not good enough…” There ladies and gentlemen lies the problem, again I quote ‘…they think you’re not good enough…’ You know what? Maybe you’re not good enough, and there’s many things you may not be good enough for, the least you owe yourself and society is to be comfortable with it. You’re not good enough for a math major that’s why they gave you a D (no twitter pun intended). You’re not good enough to play the violin, that’s why you play soccer, a hooligan’s sport.
It’s sad that she cried and this is by no means to trivialize her pain, I’m sure it was as painful as a cat re-living it’s nine deaths but as Marylyn Monroe is rumoured to have said, “…crying is for plain women, beautiful women go shopping.” Some women are beautiful, others work towards but the really smart ones are on good terms with society’s writers.
“…crying is for plain women, beautiful women go shopping.”
So the next time someone hits that soft spot that you are awfully insecure about, the worst you can do is mope about it in public, it’s your fault, it is you who hands a bully his victory, and you make the rest of us have to help you deal with your insecurities while we have our own to deal with.