{"id":43856,"date":"2016-11-15T12:22:08","date_gmt":"2016-11-15T09:22:08","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.capitalfm.co.ke\/lifestyle\/?p=43856"},"modified":"2016-11-15T12:22:08","modified_gmt":"2016-11-15T09:22:08","slug":"datingchronicles-via-darker_berry","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.capitalfm.co.ke\/lifestyle\/2016\/11\/15\/datingchronicles-via-darker_berry\/","title":{"rendered":"#DatingChronicles: &#8220;Who Are You Here With?&#8221; via @Darker_Berry"},"content":{"rendered":"<figure id=\"attachment_43857\" aria-describedby=\"caption-attachment-43857\" style=\"width: 422px\" class=\"wp-caption aligncenter\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"size-full wp-image-43857\" src=\"https:\/\/www.capitalfm.co.ke\/lifestyle\/files\/2016\/11\/julia-gaitho.jpeg\" alt=\"A selfie at a restaurant\" width=\"422\" height=\"238\" srcset=\"https:\/\/www.capitalfm.co.ke\/lifestyle\/files\/2016\/11\/julia-gaitho.jpeg 422w, https:\/\/www.capitalfm.co.ke\/lifestyle\/files\/2016\/11\/julia-gaitho-300x169.jpeg 300w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 422px) 100vw, 422px\" \/><figcaption id=\"caption-attachment-43857\" class=\"wp-caption-text\">@Darker_Berry: A selfie at a restaurant<\/figcaption><\/figure>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p><em>Originally published on\u00a0<a href=\"https:\/\/juliagaitho.wordpress.com\/\" target=\"_blank\">https:\/\/juliagaitho.wordpress.com\/<\/a><\/em><\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>Pre-London, I was single. Sure I wanted a boyfriend. Sure I wanted to settle down. But I was too busy discovering myself. Well, no. I was too busy trying to make something of my art and music only to realize that self-discovery was part of the deal. Another thing I discovered when one takes such a leap was the plenty of self-time. Alone-time. I woke up alone. Went to the gym alone. Came back home alone. Sketched on my canvas alone. Painted for hours alone. I did so much alone that I got used to being alone. I was no longer in an office dealing with colleagues and emails and badly brewed coffee. And so on weekends, I would be invited to a night out and I would drive out of my house alone and walk into a party alone.<\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"alignright size-full wp-image-43858\" src=\"https:\/\/www.capitalfm.co.ke\/lifestyle\/files\/2016\/11\/julia-gaitho-crop.jpeg\" alt=\"julia-gaitho-crop\" width=\"310\" height=\"341\" srcset=\"https:\/\/www.capitalfm.co.ke\/lifestyle\/files\/2016\/11\/julia-gaitho-crop.jpeg 310w, https:\/\/www.capitalfm.co.ke\/lifestyle\/files\/2016\/11\/julia-gaitho-crop-273x300.jpeg 273w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 310px) 100vw, 310px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>Over time I realized that people would often ask, \u2018Who are you here with?\u2019 I would say, \u2018Solo\u2026\u2019 It was no big deal. Matter of fact I didn\u2019t realize it was a deal to be made into any matter. The non-boyfriend man I was seeing at the time went out alone a lot too. And my friends would say, \u201cOh, we saw Anthony last night. He was alone.\u201d Or \u201cSpotted Anthony at <em>such and such<\/em>, he was having dinner by himself.\u201d At the time all I was interested in knowing was if he was with another woman and so, obviously, I missed the undertones of perplex in my friends\u2019 comments, \u2018He was alone\u2026who clubs alone? Who dines alone?\u201d is what they were really asking.<\/p>\n<p>After a few parties though I got fed up. Not only by the questions but also by the pity party that formed around me when I joined a group at a party that I had attended by myself. So I started to call a friend to tag along. And then one day I asked Anthony, \u2018Do people often ask you why you move around alone?\u201d\u00a0 And he said, \u201cThey used to. Now they don\u2019t. I am a grown ass man with a lot of money and power Julia. Why would I give a shit.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>I went to London. Like I have always said, London became my second love. I had an exhilarating love affair with London and left Nairobi in the dust, literally. No one cared that I was alone. I drunk coffee and smoked cigarettes and people-watched and hang alone all I wanted and no one ever asked, even once, \u201cWho are you here with?\u201d<\/p>\n<p>I ended my affair and came back home. She was still kind of beat up and unkempt my beautiful Nairobi, but you know- East or West. I told Anthony, \u201cYou know what I miss? Going to a bar alone. Sitting at a restaurant alone. I want to do that and not get odd looks from people wondering what a beautiful young woman such as myself is doing there by herself.\u201d Anthony sipped his whisky and smirked, \u201cYou\u2019re a grown ass woman, single\u2026um, well\u2026 unmarried,\u00a0at a bar by herself, in Nairobi. You will get an odd look.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>And there it was. The same rules just don\u2019t apply for women. He was single. I was unmarried. And what if I had Money? Power? \u00a0Just like him. The conclusion would be that I am alone because I am too rich for a man. Too powerful for a man. I am threatening to the man.<\/p>\n<p>And I get it. I don\u2019t think it is fair but I get it.<\/p>\n<p>Why am I writing this then? Look. This blog post will be my buffer. My get-off-my-case card. I am back home. I am still single. I am finally embracing singlehood and not in that sad miserable way but in an enlightened way. You know\u2026 I came to the conclusion that a beautiful young woman such as myself is still single because there is a lesson I am yet to learn before I can meet my partner. Simple. So I will just learn it. In the mean time I want the liberty to move alone. Whether or not my girlfriends are available. Besides, I <em>am<\/em> single. \u00a0And I want when I go out alone, like tonight when I attend Patricia Kihoro\u2019s \u2018Life in the Single Lane,\u2019-go figure, and someone asks, \u201cWho are you here with?\u201d I just want to say, \u201cI came alone. 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