Most Kenyan women would do anything to save their relationship/marriage, says marriage counsellor

25 THINGS I HAVE OBSERVED WHILE COUNSELLING COUPLES IN KENYA

1. No relationship problem is not fixable.

2. A man and a woman in a relationship can look at the same issues so differently leading to conflict.

3. The issues couples ignore end up magnifying to become the reason why the love is under threat or dies.

4. Difficult moments that happened before a man and a woman met each other can cause a strain once they do fall in love if left unchecked.

5. Men are not afraid of counselling. When a man loves his woman, he looks for solutions.

6. Most women would do anything to save their relationship/marriage.

7. Many couples actually don’t have meaningful conversations, once they fail to be vulnerable with each other they drift apart.

8. Sometimes all someone needs is to be told “I am sorry.”

9. Many adults can do with a good cry. We have so much hurt and pain pent up inside and all we need is a place of release.

10. Many men and women in a relationship or marriage claim they believe in God yet most don’t even pray together.

11. The greatest fear of two people in love is losing each other and what scares many is not knowing what to do to save their family.

12. Many couples are not taking care of the little foxes that come to ruin their garden.

13. Relationships without a vision struggle.

14. When the man takes charge, progress is faster. Sadly most men are passive.

15. Some men think being the man in the relationship/marriage means only providing hence they fail to be there emotionally for their family because they fear being vulnerable.

16. Once you make your partner insecure, that is the beginning of problems.

17. Men and women I have met call each other really sweet names. Romance is not dead.

18. A neglected woman loses her balance and this affects everything; from her career, her joy, her faith, her peace and her parenthood.

19. Men and women want the same things; respect, love, honesty and to be heard.

20. Many couples smile to the outside world and they play the perfect couple very well yet behind closed doors they are going through heavy stuff21. Many women add to the problems by overthinking.

22. You can love someone the wrong way and mess it up when you don’t listen.

23. Love is so simple but we often complicate it.

24. The close of the sessions is the best part. To watch two people who came lost, leaving finding love in each other again.

25. Many couples enter their realest, deepest and most fulfilled season after they have hit their rock bottom. Rock bottom reminds you how much you love and need each other; and how valuable your marriage is.

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