He’s smart. He’s funny. He might be the one…
The two of you had a great conversation and you can feel the tingle of excitement from that initial moment of chemistry.
You want to get to know him better. How do you get his number?
According to relationship expert Matthew Hussey, this is a super common situation. The British television personality, human dynamics coach, and New York Times Bestselling author says there are four simple ways to get a guy’s number.
#1 – The Classic “Napkin Trick”
It’s not really a trick, it’s more of just a maneuver. We imagine the old-fashioned scenario of writing your number down on a napkin and giving it to someone. It doesn’t have to be a napkin, it could just be a piece of paper, a receipt, or a business card.
You may never have spoken to this man before. You see him in a bar and you say, “Listen, you’re really attractive and you seem like you have a great energy. I thought I’d give you my number and see if we got on over the phone.”
Kind of ballsy, but the worst that can happen is he doesn’t call you.
#2 – “The Takeaway Sale”
Now if you’re having a conversation with a guy, you may be wondering, “Is it okay for me to ask for his number? As a woman, is that going to seem needy or am I going to seem like I’m too desperate to make something happen?”
Well, there’s a way to do this where he feels like you’re still high-value in the situation. If you’re the one, for example, who is saying to him, “Listen, I have to get back to my friends now.”
So you’ve been having a great conversation, then you say, “I really have to go, I have to get back to my friends, we’re supposed to be on a girl’s night right now and I’m going to get in trouble for talking to you any longer. But listen, why don’t we exchange numbers and if we get on over the phone, we’ll keep talking.”
#3 – “The Venue Change Number Exchange”
When you’re meeting a guy for the first time and you’re like, “Hey, how’s it going? Are you enjoying your night? Oh, really? Cool.”
And then five minutes later you’re like, “So where are you guys headed after this?” and he says, “This place.”
You can say, “Me and my friends were thinking of heading there, too, but we don’t know what it’s liketonight. I’ll tell you what, when you get there, you should tell us how it is.”
Now, he has the opportunity to say, “Oh, definitely; well, give me your number and I’ll text you when I get there.” Simple. Easy.
#4 – The “‘We’re All Cool’ Exchange”
I sometimes think that we put too much pressure on a number exchange as being, “I like you. You like me. Let’s exchange numbers and see what happens, maybe we’ll be happy together.”
And then everyone gets awkward, because they’re like, “Oh, we’re clearly exchanging numbers so that we can go on a date.”
Sometimes, you want it to be a bit more casual than that.
So you’ll meet a guy for the first time, you’re with your friends, he’s with his friends and you know what you say? You say, “Hey, you guys all seem cool, we should all hang out sometime. Let’s exchange details.”
Then it becomes about you and your friends all being cool, him and his friends all being cool, and you’re just exchanging details as cool people. Let’s all hang out some time. Super casual.