You’re dating someone new, and after a couple of dates, the thought of sealing the deal has crossed your mind.
Everything is going great, you even have an electric make-out session conveniently in front of her place. Do you ask to stay? Will that prevent you from seeing her again? Maybe she’s actually into it too…
Navigating through dating someone new is often a sensitive situation.
Here are 3 signs that it’s time to invite your date into the bedroom:
Ask Dr. Carla
“When the early stages of infatuation are built upon friendship and common interests rather than sex itself, the couple consciously and unconsciously create ways to maintain healthy connections without relying on the highs of the sex neurochemical roller coaster ride. Rather than being attracted and ‘temporarily bonded’ by sexuality and the flood of neurochemicals brought on by sex and orgasm, a strong friendship builds dopamine, serotonin, and oxytocin by sustainable and ongoing connection (ex: Laughing, walking, exercising together, cooking together, etc.),” clinical psychologist Dr. Carla Manly explains to AskMen.com.
Spend the early weeks and months of your relationship doing more than just staying home with a movie and fooling around. Create memories together that’s beyond infatuation, and then invite your prospect into the bedroom three to six months later if you want to build a stronger relationship. If shagging was all you wanted, then just go for it.
When You’ve Connected
Since you’re delaying sexual intimacy, use that time to do things together. Learn about each others passions or start a new one for both of you. Learn about each other’s history, where they are now, and what their dreams are.
When You Want To
It’s important to understand if you’re both on the same page. For some, waiting is important, and for others, if they feel like it, they want to. There’s no right or wrong to this. Some people take longer to feel connected to others, whilst some just take a couple of dates. Compatibility matters and sexual compatibility should be addressed from the onset. Everyone’s sexual values are different so it’s important to understand the expectations first, and be on the same page.