Dating do’s and don’ts to live by


by Carly Spindel

Here are a few dating rules to live by, from a matchmaker, so that you don’t make the common dating mistakes …

Dating rules to live by

When you’re dating, you have to put yourself out there until you find Mr. Right. Sometimes it takes a while, but in the end it’s worth it.

Here are the dating rules to live by, from a matchmaker, so that you don’t make the common dating mistakes.

The dos (these are the things you should be doing)

1. Ask away

The best way to get to know a man is to ask him a ton of questions. Don’t make the date feel like an interview, but get to know him. Believe me, everyone loves to talk about themselves.

2. Dress Up

Putting yourself together is important – all the time. I’m a huge fan of leggings and T-shirts. If you ever run into me during the day, I am likely to be in spandex and some kind of comfy top, but that’s not what I wear on dates. I save my comfy clothes for when I hang out with my girlfriends. You should too.

When you’re going on a date, play dress-up with yourself. Wear clothes that make you feel like a million dollars.


3. Be confident

Confidence, confidence, confidence. Say it over and over again and remember how important it is. Men usually want to date a woman who’s sure of herself. They don’t generally want to date an insecure girl who’s always in doubt.

4. Be honest about your feelings

Life is too short to keep your feelings a secret. If you like someone, make him aware of it.

5. Be informed

Many men are attracted to smart, sophisticated women. They like dating women who can bring something to the table. You don’t need to be a rocket scientist, but you should be aware of what’s going on in the world.


The don’ts (the don’ts of dating are the things you should never do … they’re easy to remember!)
1. Don’t be a wimp

No one likes wimps. At least I know I don’t. Most people say you should hide your feelings when you’re casually dating. That rule is so passé. When you’re dating someone, stand up for what you want. If you don’t, no one else will.

2. Easy doesn’t always do it

Everyone likes sex; sex is fun! But that doesn’t mean that you should go around having sex with 40 different guys. You should wait to sleep with someone until you’re exclusively dating.

Men like a chase. They don’t want to date a girl who’s easy …


3. Be game free

Regardless of what your friends tell you, games aren’t cool. They’re for people who are afraid to be vulnerable and show their true colours. Do you want to be that girl? I didn’t think so. So don’t play games.

4. Bye-bye neediness

Men want a woman who’s attentive, but there’s a difference between being attentive and being needy. When you’re attentive, you give a guy the right amount of attention without smothering him, but when you’re needy he’ll generally want to run in the opposite direction as soon as possible. So whatever you do, don’t be needy!

Now that you know a few of the simple dos and don’ts of dating, follow them!

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  1. Avatar Boiyot October 10th, 2012 at 1:00 am

    Thank you Mr President!

  2. Avatar Lucy Wangoi October 10th, 2012 at 1:53 am

    Thank you and thank you again sir !! Theses people have no mercy for the poor. Long live mr. President!

  3. Avatar Jannadas October 10th, 2012 at 2:42 am

    The President has spoken in his wisdom.

  4. Avatar MIKE October 10th, 2012 at 8:26 am

    sasa tunaongea Kibaki,,,,

  5. Avatar Simon Kipkoros Tum October 10th, 2012 at 9:20 am

    My third sense tells me that this was a diversionary move.9M to these guys is peanuts. They wanted to pass the election bill which will allow them to party hop till January 4th. Kibaki signed it. They are smart guys.

    1. Avatar shiks October 10th, 2012 at 4:49 pm

      Even if they get a chance to party hop, we are the voters here, and as voters, our decision is final. Look at it this way, it does not make a deference cos if we really really want to, we can send the whole lot packing.

  6. Avatar Ngigi Samuel October 10th, 2012 at 11:53 am

    Thank you Mr. president

  7. Avatar Hotpotato October 11th, 2012 at 4:04 am

    Well done mr. president. Those MPs are Mpigs, “mangómbe”kabisa. We have our people who do not know what to eat the next day and the guys just want to erich themselves. If I has power, I would recall all of them back to their consitituenceis. Wakae huko na wasionekake mjini Nairobi. Waende kabisa. Thieves, thieves and thieves.


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