By Valentine Njoroge for MumsVillage
VALENTINE CONGRATULATIONS, I HEARD THAT YOU RECENTLY BECAME A MUM. I HAD A LITTLE GIRL 4 WEEKS AGO AND I AM WONDERING WHEN MY HUSBAND AND I CAN GET BACK TO HAVING SEX. IS IT TOO SOON? ALSO WHAT FORM OF CONTRACEPTION DO YOU RECOMMEND? I FEAR THAT THE PILL WILL AFFECT MY BABY.
Congratulations Mama Joy. Isn’t it amazing and exhausting, this mummy thing? My son is 17 months now but I still remember those first 4 weeks. It was a very ‘fluid’ time – sweating, bleeding, breastfeeding and peeing all that excess fluid out of my body. I am surprised that you even want to have sex; good for you.
Doctors say that you should give your body 6 weeks for everything to get back to normal. Your pelvis and spine are readjusting themselves. Your hormones also need time to balance out and the muscles of your pelvic floor need some rest as they rearrange themselves from carrying baby and pushing her out.
I’d give it another two weeks before actual intercourse, but that does not mean that you cannot do other things. Massage, kissing, cuddling, oral sex (for your man) are all options.
ONE LADY TOLD ME THAT HER NIPPLES BECAME SO SENSITIVE FROM BREAST FEEDING THAT SHE COULD HAVE ORGASMS FROM NIPPLE PLAY ALONE.
Now when it comes to contraception, I urge caution when it comes to any hormonal methods. This is because they affect the quality of your milk and may cause you baby to be fussy. Also oestrogen containing pills have been shown to decrease milk supply, sometimes very dramatically.
The World Health Organisation advocates for exclusive breastfeeding until you wean little Joy at 6 months, and then that you continue breastfeeding until she is two. Many mothers find this grueling and many say that they first 6 months are the most crucial. You will find what works for you, Joy and your family as a whole. I did the 6 months exclusive and then continued until my son quit at one. I was happy that he quit but I really missed him and had a bit of a mourning period.
For now I would suggest that you…