Forget Foreplay and the Sex, “Hindplay” is the true test of love


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Many equate sex to love. They judge the health of love by foreplay and main sex. But anyone looking for sex will give you good foreplay. Whether a person despises or cares for you that person will lick you good, rub, squeeze, kiss you and please you, maybe even moan intimate words you rarely get to hear from them “Babe it feels so good! Don’t stop!” Whether you are married to the person or not that person will go out of his or her way to give you unforgettable foreplay and mind blowing sex because their pleasure is tied to giving you pleasure. Foreplay has been greatly desired and talked about because it sets the appetite for the sex, so that person will give you great foreplay in anticipation for the high that will come with the eventual intercourse. But will the same person show much enthusiasm after the sex?

The true test of what someone feels and has for and with you, is not in the foreplay or the intercourse since anyone can give great sex if they want to. Some watch movies and read magazines and articles that give tips on foreplay and intercourse. But what happens after you both climax?

Does he leave you in bed feeling used?

Does she look at you with regret from what you made her do?

Do you look at the wedding ring on your hand and feel guilty for cheating on your spouse?

Do you look at the wedding ring on his/ her hand and coil in shame?

Do you have a scared look afraid you might have contracted a disease because the naked person next to you is unfaithful?

Do you both stop touching each other contrary to how cozy you were some seconds ago?

Do you look for your clothes and blanket to cover yourself from the one who just saw you naked?

Are you asked to leave like your relevance has expired?

Does he throw money at you like you are some prostitute?

Does she suddenly turn cold?

Does the mood change?

Do you both retreat distant from each other but on the same bed?

OR do you have a round of hindplay?

Does the person kiss you? Caress you?

Are you told how amazing you are? Are you prayed for? Do your fingers play with each other? Do your toes dance together? Do you kiss on lips, skin and forehead? Do you pillow talk till you sleep? Do you laugh? Do you cuddle in warm silence? Do you whisper to each other’s ears? Are you told “I love you”? Do you know you are the only one loved this way? Do you wake up smiling because of what happened after the sex or were your feelings and worth not considered after the high? Was the hindplay as intimate and special as the foreplay?


Dayan Masinde

Dayan Masinde is a Nairobi based Kenyan artist specializing in Poetry, Fine Art, Portrait Art, Murals, Creative Writing, Music, Illustrations and Animation. He is often described as "The Artist Inspired by Love" because of his use of artistic expressions to inspire, celebrate and help understand the mystery of love. His poetry book "WHEN ANGELS MAKE LOVE" is available for purchase worldwide on amazon.

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