10 Important things for newlyweds to do

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by Sylvia Smith

This checklist will help you to remember 10 important things for newlyweds to do …

After all the frantic preparations leading up to the big day, you might feel at a bit of a loose end, wondering ‘what needs to be done now?’

So the wedding bells are gently fading into the distance as you return from honeymoon and start settling into your new status of married life. After all the frantic preparations leading up to the big day, you might feel at a bit of a loose end, wondering ‘what needs to be done now?’

Don’t worry; there are still quite a few details that need to be attended to as soon as possible after your wedding day. This checklist will help you to remember 10 important things for newlyweds to do.

1. Take care of your wedding dress

The bride’s exquisite wedding dress certainly has a key place in your happy memories, so you may want to get it professionally cleaned and preserved.

It is best to do this within six weeks of the wedding day so that any stains may be easily removed. The preservationist will pack it in a box which should be stored away from extreme temperatures, or direct sunlight.

If you don’t wish to keep your dress you could no doubt find a happy buyer and pass the pleasure forward for someone else to enjoy your lovely gown.

2. Put the cake away

If you have a traditional tier cake you may want to keep the top layer for your first wedding anniversary. Get a family member or close friend to pack it away for you after the wedding. First remove any sugar flowers or decorations, then wrap the cake in layers of plastic wrap and place it in an airtight bag before freezing.

3. Save your bouquet

If you haven’t tossed your bouquet to the next hopeful bride, you may want to preserve it as a keepsake.

You could press and frame a few blooms to display in a picture frame alongside your other wedding mementos. Or if you want to preserve the entire bouquet you could hire the services of a professional preservation company. They will normally vacuum-seal it inside a glass container such as a dome or shadow box.

4. Send out the thank you notes

Saying thank you is an essential step before you can truly start enjoying all the amazing wedding gifts you received. The sooner you can do this after you get back from honeymoon the better. The ideal time is within a month but two or three is also understandable.

Handwritten notes are always appreciated and worth the effort. Don’t try to do them all at one sitting, though. Make it a daily ritual for the two of you to sit down together and get a few done every day.

5. Write vendor reviews

Once you are done with the thank you notes, don’t forget to express your appreciation for all your wedding vendors; your florist, photographer, caterer, make-up artist, hairdresser and everyone else who worked so hard to make your day a success. Just a few kind words of review on their websites can go a long way to boosting their business as well as helping engaged couples who are busy planning their weddings.

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6. Arrange the photo album

After the flurry and excitement of posting all your digital images on Facebook, don’t forget about creating an album to preserve your special memories. If this was included in your photography package, all the better.

Set aside a date with your new spouse to go through all the photos and choose your favourites, then arrange them in sequential order to recreate the flow of your wedding day. You might even like to have one or two enlarged on canvas to hang on the walls of your new home.

7. Sort out your finances

The financial aspects of your relationship are important to discuss before you get married so that you can know how to proceed together. Some couples choose to open up joint accounts after marriage, or they add one another to their existing accounts. Another idea is where each partner pays a certain percentage of their salary into a joint account to cover the household expenses.

Being married will also affect how you file taxes, whether you file jointly or separately.

8. Take care of legal aspects

If you are changing your name, that would be the first matter to attend to after obtaining your marriage certificate. Your new name then needs to be changed on every legal document you use, such as your identity card or social security card, your driver’s licence, your health insurance and your bank accounts.

The sooner you can get these things done the better and it will also help with your transition into married life. And don’t forget to change your name and status on Facebook and Twitter!

9. Agree on the house rules

Living with someone 24/7 can be a huge adjustment, especially in practical terms of the day-to-day running of your new household. It’s important that you come to an amicable agreement on who is going to do what around the house. If you don’t have a clear plan you may end up with one or both of you feeling ‘put upon’ and resentful. And remember, you no longer have to feel locked in to the traditional husband-wife roles.

It’s all about preferences, abilities and choices, so find what works best for both of you and have fun keeping house together.

10. Start planning something new

The best way to move forward is always to be looking and planning ahead. So now that you have your wedding, honeymoon and post-honeymoon to-do list successfully sorted, it’s time to set some new goals to work towards. Maybe you can throw a housewarming party or start thinking about your first anniversary celebration.

Whatever it is, keep planning, arranging and creating the life you love to live with your soulmate.

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  • Is Uhuru, the man who wants to stamp everything with a tribal seal, running around using public money? And what right has he to even imagine isolation of the country because of his personal problems? Is the government in support of these selfish ventures? When ICC cases were confirmed, we moved from presumed innocence to defending and even establishing that lacking innocency. Kenya indeed has a long way to go. If CIA director, Gen David Petraeus, would resign because of improper relationship, how come in Kenya suspected murderers have even the temerity to vie for the presidency? And why are other little known offenders rotting in prison while these guys are running around in neighboring bushes to try to bolster their political standing?

    • KEVIN

      huko ni U.S.A UHURU EVEN DOESN USE KENYAN MONEY HE USES HIS GRANDFATHERS MONEY ZAKE BADOOOOOOOOOOOOO….T.N.A MPAKA MWISHO WA DUNIA

      • @KEVIN: Really? Does he know his grandfather? Let me tell you: he was a Mkamba fellow called Musau wa Ngengi from Machakos county! Had very little indeed. Infact, Uhuru’s father had a driver from the same poor family. Remember all the many changes in Kenyatta’s names? Ever heard of Johnstone Kamau wa Ngengi? But my take is that if Uhuru is truly using his “own” money, it must be those “mis-outs” in national budget! And TNA are letters written with a tribal pen!!!!

    • edmus

      “Using public money”; “Little known offenders (read people who actually committed the murders)” and you call your neighbouring countries, your fellow Africans “neighbouring bushes”!!!!! see, that’s there is the difference between Kenya and US, look no further. People who cannot think straight but blame someone else for it, people who politics is a permanent ingredient in every conversation or debate

      • @edmus: When you get the wrong signal you end up ridiculing others for nothing. Compared to western countries, what are these tiny outposts? And surely, they are certainly in our neighboring bushes, take it or leave it!

  • Brothers Hon. Uhuru and Hon. Ruto seem to be getting naive and naive with every passing day. Infact, after we went around praying for them, they seem to have overlooked the fact that kenyans know a few truths about them. After using those prayers to build political careers, they now hold the view that they are unassailable. They even wrongly believe that their passionate derision for ICC would help rally Kenyans behind them. They dont realize that once time to play hard ball ckecks in, they will be effortlessly burried by their own mischief.

    I was actually surprised by Hon. Ruto’s response to Mudavadi’s caution on Kenyans not to elect people who are likely to isolate the country from the rest of international community. Ruto was so alarmed by that innocent line that he vissibly became angry. It never occured to him that his new found status was born out of ICC bashing. And likewise, other candidates WILL indeed use the same ICC issue to beat him. To imagine that ICC would be a taboo to others, is to self-deceive. He should remember that when the country is threatened by selfish interests, citizens WILL stand up and defend it. Furthermore, Ruto should be reminded that he was indeed the first person to start talking about PEV even long before 2007 elections. While in Odm, he sternly threatened unspecified serious consequences if the party lost unfairly. He pointedly added that he didnt even want to talk about those unimaginable consequences. It didnt thus come as a surprise when his backyard became the epi-centre of PEV. However, our memories are too short and much water has passed under the bridge. Perhaps, innocence is only a mere terminology!

    My village brother, Uhuru Kenyatta, has even forgotten that those who pretend to love their countries, have, to at least, show some semblace of that “genuine” love. He has already embarked on a scheme thats clearly meant to “insulate” Kenya from any possible economic sanctions by international community. His “run-arounds” in the neighboring villages are apparently meant to serve that purpose. The guy certainly assumes that he is on the verge of taking over the country. Plight of innocent Kenyans whose suffering would hugely increase in such eventuality, is not even being considered. But while Uhuru has always worn pretences of innocence, the truth is actually the oppiste. Just before he was named ICC suspect, there was this pervasive talk in central Kenya to the effect that, had he not enlisted the services of Mungiki to fight back, Kikuyus would have been finished. Praises were heaped on him. I even had a serious argument with some fellow. That was after I asserted that those counter actions were not useful for us, since they stopped only Odm leadership being carted away to the Hague. To my detriment, Uhuru’s supposed bravery and nice actions carried the day. I only received apology much later after brother Uhuru was named suspect by then ICC’s Ocampo.

    In these self incriminating circumstances, how would one sincerely feign innocence? And with all that in mind, are we supposed to allow the brothers to take the country in the wrong way? To stand with the brothers, we need to have pretty clear conscience, without any shred of doubt. Nevertheless, once they forgot the real issues and started attempting to injure the country, line has to be clearly drawn. The push against their wicked futile designs WILL be larger than the hugest of tsunamis! There is no doubt about it! By the way, what makes them think that they can take over the country when faced with worst international criminal cases?

    • Mazzdark

      I know who you are KWESSI PRATT or shall we say MK…….?

      • @ Mazzdark: Who is this MK you are reffering to? Be open. What are you afraid of? I have never hidden my support for my candidate, brother VP Kalonzo Musyoka, and has no qualms about it. I can NEVER EVER be ashamed of my choices. I dont pick them on basis of tribe, I certainly take them up on their substance. Having said that, lets face it, whats your take on the above? Am I wrong? What are you saying anyway? The mischief being played out by our brother Uhuru Kenyatta is going to explode on his face. Mark my words pal. Political actions are never taken with tribal wisdom pal. You cant conduct politics by being merely led by opponent’s deceitful propaganda and get anywhere. By the way, brother Uhuru is in the same position as that of PM Raila just before the 2007 elections. His ego had become too bloated that he never imagined of defeat. Elections came and there he was, helpless speechless, mouth agape and God knows what else! And who was on his side then? Incidentally, Raila was surrounded by same same people who have taken over Uhuru’s courtyard.

        First and foremost, was brother Tony Gachoka, who thinks he is the best “strategist” around, whatever that means. Gachoka made Raila sink and walked away on him. Tony is actually not a strategist but an opportunist with a tribal mind. He wants to be where power might be. Uhuru being a normal school boy, who is dropped and picked up from school, has no ideas of his own. He believes that school situation is ideal. In his own estimation, thats only done to clever people. It wasnt thus, surprising for Uhuru to heed Tony’s advice to put his long term best friend, Ngilu, in fake presidential race since VP Kalonzo was not willing to play ball.

        Accordingly, this tinpot unknown “strategist” has answer to any possible economic sanctions against the country in the event Uhuru wins. Neigboring villages can “prevent” Kenya fron sinking, thus these unlikely trips! Even those who accompany Uhuru must be made to understand that they were only enjoying favors that can be withdrawn if they didnt toe the line. Of course, in the strategist’s world, money is the boss. Those “below” the boss have to fall on line or face exclusion. That politics is about inclusion doesnt even cross the mind of this unknown quantity. Omniously, once experienced politicians decide to teach a blue babies a lesson or two, the results are always predictable. Thus, this “strategist” with conceited tribal mind, will indeed politically burry Uhuru six feet under, – with his money as burial flowers. It would be a scene to behold! Ever suffering Kenyans would probably undo the grave thinkling that the guy had been burried with money!

        What am trying to say is that tribalism, even when reinforced by money, wont take us anywhere at all. It can only bring the worst in us. Any politician thats not willing to accomodate others will surely end up in a ditch, with or without money. And while Kenya is saturated with anti-Kikuyu feelings, it would be suicidal for any political blue-baby to attempt self-crowning. If you doubt my words, lets wait pal, March 2013 is just around the corner.

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