There’s nothing quite like the first few dates with a man or woman that you really fancy. It seems like everything about them is so alluring. From physically to mentally to even emotionally. You hold on to every word, think of them before you go to bed, and wonder if they had a good day and if not, could you do something to make it better? Every glance makes you swoon and you anticipate when you’ll see them next.
Then, slowly…almost imperceptibly… the thrill starts to wear off. Before you know it, you’re a couple, and instead of sexy candlelit dinners and elaborate dates, you’re in your ratty and unshapely t-shirts that were freebies from your last corporate event, eating pizza on the couch and watching the latest episodes of Game of Thrones before you are overcome with fatigue and slip away into sleep.
Many people say that if a relationship is right, it should be easy. Though it’s true that if your relationship is too much work it probably isn’t right, it doesn’t mean that a good relationship won’t require effort.
The sad truth is that most people bring their best selves on day one to the stranger, and a much lazier more negative version on day 365 with the person they love.
Relationship expert Mathew Hussey shares his 3 tips on how to keep the passion alive:
Relationships require effort. Embrace it and never stop dating.
Attraction is about keeping people off balance; the problem is that when people get into a relationship, they get too stable. On one hand, it is great when you find that person you can build routine with, be comfortable and share your life with. The danger arises when routine overshadows the intensity of the emotions and experiences you have with that person.
Though having a comfort zone and co-existing with your partner is great, you need to keep things fun and interesting. A date doesn’t mean you have to go out and get dolled up every single time; it can be something as simple as changing or creating an atmosphere
Special occasions deserve special experiences.
When it comes to birthdays and holidays, many people struggle with what to get their man. You don’t need to break the bank; you just need to invest yourself.
One of the greatest gifts, as well as the most memorable, is the gift of time. The best gift and date ideas take advantage of this. Make a mini day-trip to a place that neither of you have been before, or go learn something new together. Not only will you have spent quality time with your mate, you’ll also have just created a new point of connection and conversation!
Make a mental note of things he or she likes
Take note of the little things your partner mentions that they like, wants to do or turns them on, and build a well that you can draw from. Be proactive and feel free to surprise each other. You don’t have to wait for a special occasion to take charge.