How couples use text messaging may affect the quality of their relationships.
In study published in the Journal of Couple and Relationship Therapy, researchers found that young women text to connect, whilst guys text to distance themselves to avoid in-person contact.
Among 300 people who were surveyed between the ages of 18 to 25, both men and women were more likely to report less satisfying and less stable relationships when the men frequently texted their female partners. Women who texted the most, however, were more likely to report that they had stable relationships. Those who texted affectionate notes to each other were more likely to be more closely attached, judging by the survey results.
Though the authors of the study acknowledged limitations to their work, it is important to remember that texting can definitely help to improve relationships, but it can also have the power to hurt them.
It’s worth remembering that one should be purposeful in how they’re texting. The more complicated the issue or more emotionally frustrated you may be at a particular moment, the less suitable texting is to handle the issue or to communicate with. Sometimes old-fashion calling or speaking face-to-face is the best way to communicate.
Using Technology to Connect in Romantic Relationships: Effects on Attachment, Relationship Satisfaction, and Stability in Emerging Adults. Journal of Couple & Relationship Therapy: Innovations in Clinical and Educational Interventions. Volume 12, Issue 4, 2013