At first glance, he seems like Mr. Absolutely Right. He sweeps you off your cynical feet with nice dinners, roses, thoughtful gestures. The sex is incredible. You want to introduce him to your mom. But before you fall hook, line and sinker, stop! He could be one of these 7 dating mistakes.
Some men are master anglers. Once you’re hooked, you’ll invest your love, soul, money and, possibly, valuable childbearing years before realizing – too late – they don’t do happily ever after.
In the end, they’ll break your heart, shatter your ego and frustrate the heck out of you.
Though these bad boys may be hard to spot, they send out subtle clues that they’re relationship kryptonite. Read on for the 7 types of men to avoid …
1. Mr. Perennial Bachelor
This guy is well-mannered, smart, attractive, witty, successful, and his kisses melt you like ice cream in July.
You can’t believe that some woman hasn’t walked him down the aisle long ago.
Even if you approach him with caution, his charm and persistence probably will win you over. Then, just when you start considering whether to take his name or hyphenate, he’ll peel out of the relationship faster than a NASCAR driver, leaving skid marks on your heart.
3. Mr. No-Money Bags
He has champagne tastes on a beer budget and a walk-in closet full of financial skeletons. But that doesn’t bother him because he also has a preternatural ability to get into women’s wallets as well as their beds.
He’s counting on you to keep him in the style to which he hopes to become accustomed.
“He looks for the financially well-off woman so he can mooch off her,” says relationship expert Celeste Simmons, co-author of You Know She’s a Princess When… (Third Dimension Press).
4. Mr. Mama’s Boy
He’s sweet, affectionate and understanding. Unfortunately, he’s still hung up on another woman – his mother. Not exactly the threesome you might have had in mind.
Mom still influences his professional decisions, his investment portfolio, where he lives, who he votes for. Project into the future and you can count on her influencing everything – from where you buy a home to how you raise your children.
And if you push him to choose sides, guess who loses? Yep, that would be you.
5. Mr. Peter Pan Syndrome
Though he’s in his 30s or 40s, at heart Mr. Peter Pan Syndrome is still a frat boy. Life’s a nonstop, movable kegger and he’s the affable host.
He’s on a first-name basis with all the bartenders in town, thinks 401(k) refers to computer stuff and is always ready for a trip to Las Vegas.
But if you run into hard times – say, you’re in a serious car accident or you lose your job – he’ll be way, way out of his depth. Difficult situations aren’t in his repertoire, and when the going gets tough, you’ll be going it alone.
6. Mr. Egomaniac
He’s brilliant, accomplished and has an unflagging belief in his own infallibility.
“You never see him waffling or agonizing about a decision,” Rogers says. “He’s extremely decisive because the world revolves around him.”
On the rare occasion when he’s not 100% right, he won’t take it well if you point it out. He may want an accomplished woman, but not one so successful that you eclipse his glory.
He may even undercut your success. He might embarrass you at an office party or run you down in front of colleagues in the guise of “being funny.” When you complain, he’ll accuse you of being too sensitive.
7. Mr. Control Freak
Going out with this man is like dating a boa constrictor. At first, his embrace may seem warm and secure. But before long, you’ll be suffocating.
It’ll start with going to the restaurants he chooses, seeing the movies he picks, hanging out with his friends.
But eventually he tries to dictate everything, from what you wear to how you spend your free time. “He’s trying to get you to be who you’re not,” psychotherapist Kaiser explains. “One day you wake up, and you’re like, ‘Where did I go? I don’t even know what I like to eat anymore!’”