What happens when the honeymoon period is over and you know virtually all there is to know about each other? When you first started going out, you found it easy to get all giddy about dates and seeing him but as time goes by, perhaps you’re not that giddy anymore. Where did the magic go?
This is a question a lot of people ask themselves. Relationships take work. Getting into one does not mean the end of it. Once the magic fizzles, people look so unkempt. I think the main issue is that people tend to get comfortable with each other to the point that they feel their partner wouldn’t mind if they don’t shave their beard or legs.
The end of the honeymoon period is not necessarily the end of the magic. Strong relationships are built through strong emotional connection. This is in turn built through intimacy. Here are some pointers on how to get the magic back into your relationship:
Date night – Set aside one day a month to have a date night out somewhere nice. The guys could pay for it but ladies, why not surprise him once in a while and offer to pay for dinner. How about making him feel special for a change.
Random reminders – A text to let him know you’re thinking of him. Or maybe remind him what he’s got at home like sending a sexy photo in the middle of the day.
Role play – Make your sexual experiences more interesting by having role play. Here, you both get a chance to be someone else for a night.
Appreciate – Appreciate the little things. Men get an ear full when it comes to things they don’t do right. How about taking the time to recognise the things he does get right even with random gifts.
Support and Encouragement – These are important because life is a bumpy ride and knowing you have someone to pick you up when you fall is quite comforting.
Keep it tight – Keep yourself looking as good as you did when he first met you. Looks do change with age but take pride in the looks that got him hooked in the first place.
Communicate – Most importantly, communicate. Voice any concerns and try to come together before you sleep. Don’t let the sun go down on your anger.
“The way we communicate with others and with ourselves ultimately determines the quality of our lives” – Anthony Robbins