Differences between dating a Girl Vs a Woman

We cannot deny that there are some fundamental differences between men and women – from how we are socialized to the chemical and hormonal differences that naturally occur. Thus, I thought it appropriate to write this post on the differences between dating a girl vs a woman. Many points on this post would apply if you switched the genders around.

AsmauAhmedA boy is attracted to girls. A man is attracted to women. Now, this has nothing to do with the actual age of a person. I’m referring to maturity, life vision and stage of life one is in. In fact, some people regardless of their age, will never really grow up. Also, this isn’t to say that a woman won’t ever have “girlish” or immature tendencies or vice versa. This post refers to one’s maturity and most points would also apply if you switch the genders as well.

If you are a boy, then expect that you will attract only girls. However, if you are a man (independent, knows your worth and value, has a strong moral compass, is considerate and an able communicator and doesn’t let insecurity dominate your psyche), then you should be dating a woman. And if you can’t spot the difference just yet, here are some pointers.


1. A girl throws tantrums. When displeased, upset or angry, she reacts just as she did as a child when she didn’t get her way with her parents. This often consists of screaming, pouting, giving the silent treatment, being passive aggressive and/or punishing. A woman still feels the emotions of being upset/displeased, but has cultivated the skill of responding versus reacting. She comes to the table as an adult, and communicates clearly what is bothering her.

2. A girl perceives herself as a princess and believes people should treat her like so. She is entitled and feels that she is owed and therefore expects more than she appreciates. A woman, has standards (what she holds herself to) not expectations (what she projects on to others).

3. A girl uses her physical beauty as her currency and basis of value. A girl may be so used to feeling validated through her looks and sexuality, that she uses this as her primary tool to get what she wants in life. A woman, knows her worth is beyond her physicality. A woman bases her value on her intelligence, her strength, her integrity, her values, her contributions, her humanity.


4. A girl banks on a man to be her financial strategy. A woman plans to be financially independent – she banks on… herself. And if she so happens to enter a relationship dynamic where it makes sense for her partner to be the primary breadwinner, it’s considered a bonus, not the expected life line.

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  1. Avatar Kev Gichohi November 18th, 2013 at 2:12 pm

    well written….and i fully agree with the concept of the two….and i would assume you are advocating for the latter, i think your ensuing article of the two, is where to find this elusive creature….otherwise you could just as well have described a “unicorn”….at a point in our-lives we may have wanted one a (“unicorn”) but didn’t know where to go to get one, so we had so settle down with the local donkey

    1. Avatar Triz November 19th, 2013 at 12:55 pm

      R u serious? Perhaps u r the one hangin’ out with the ‘girls’ here? Am jst sayin….

      1. Avatar ukita November 20th, 2013 at 10:44 am

        take a joke mmmm.. unicorn joke’s happen all over the web 😀

      2. Avatar Kev Gichohi January 21st, 2014 at 5:40 pm

        Triz over the holiday i went up and down the strip, looking and being objective at that, but i kept tripping over these “girls”…. and it wasn’t pleasant….perhaps pointing me in the right direction, would be the best way to start 2014

  2. Avatar b.o.b.i November 19th, 2013 at 3:48 pm

    I agree a hundred percent with your article,,A girl drains a mans energy and drags him to feeling like he is not worth,,the worst mistake some men do is to marry a girl thinking that age will maturate her in vain ,great article,,

  3. Avatar Mwaura Wamuthoni November 29th, 2013 at 4:30 pm

    The author is truly a woman and I am proud of her

  4. Avatar Jaksumo Eddy November 30th, 2013 at 3:20 pm

    i wish some ladies could read this to grow up

  5. Avatar naz groupwise December 4th, 2013 at 4:27 am

    what an awakening…… time to make some adjustments.


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