“Which kind of man is worth falling for?”
This is a question I encounter often from ladies looking forward to marriage.
Whereas I appreciate, there isn’t a perfect man. I believe there are foundational characteristics a woman looking for a good man to settle with should look out for. Ephesians 5:21-31 presents the best teaching on the subject.
“Submit to one another out of reverence for Christ. Wives, submit yourselves to your own husbands as you do to the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church, his body, of which he is the Savior. Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit to their husbands in everything. Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her to make her holy, cleansing her by the washing with water through the word, and to present her to himself as a radiant church, without stain or wrinkle or any other blemish, but holy and blameless. In this same way, husbands ought to love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself.”
Apostle Paul compares a man’s role in a family to Christ and the church:
1. Vision Bearer
The bible states that the man is the Head of the home. A man has the responsibility of casting the vision of his family. He has a responsibility of defining where he wants to go and leading his family through it. A vision bearer must not focus on his needs only but the good of his family.
A man wanting to get married must have a plan of where to take his family and be ready to lead. Ladies the first place to start when looking for a husband is one who knows where he is going. Does he have dreams or is he just about fun, fun and more fun?
2. A lover
The lord loved us unconditionally and gave up his life for us. The responsibility of every man is to love his woman and be willing to sacrifice for her. A real man works to understand what the needs of his woman are and meets them. It is a man thinking about the good of his woman and seeking to achieve it at all costs. Jacob is a good example, after he was swindled by his uncle he did not give up on the woman he loved. He worked 14 years to get Rachael.
True love is unconditional. Ladies if he places conditions to loving you, then he isn’t worth your heart.
3. A cover
Love covers a multitude of sins, similarly it covers weaknesses. A real man covers the weaknesses of his woman. A real man appreciates that we all have weaknesses and doesn’t hold his woman’s weaknesses against her.
Ladies if you are looking for a man to marry, one who doesn’t keep reminding you of your weaknesses is a good bet.
4. A priest
The work of a priest is to nourish his flock. He prepares his flock for the coming of Christ. A man has a responsibility of nourishing his family in all aspects: spiritually, emotionally and materially. A man worth the ring works to ensure that his woman (and the children to come) is nourished. He works to meet the needs of his family. If he hasn’t spent time to pray for you or read the bible with you during dating don’t expect him to do so when you get married.
Ladies if you are looking for a man to live with look out for one who is willing to provide for you and your children all round.