5. Don’t blame yourself if she doesn’t orgasm: There’s already a lot of pressure to make a women orgasm…it’s like it’s all on the man, when in fact, the orgasm comes from her brain.  Shouldn’t she also have a role when she doesn’t “get it?”  What if your partner has never experienced an orgasm? How would she know? Don’t put unnecessary pressure on yourself when it’s not all if your fault. You’re not a failure, and don’t psych yourself out for round 2.  Have confidence in yourself….but don’t be arrogant.  Just keep it real.