Your good man is also a dog


Is your man a dog?

(By Uncle Stan) Ladies ladies ladies, how many versions of the truth do you want to hear? Moreover, which version do you want to believe?

Have you ever been in one of those situations where you are in a pub or any other social gathering with friends (a mix of both sexes) and there is a heated debate on the most recent sexcapades of a mutual acquaintance?

How he was busted by his new girlfriend or fiancé or wife (notice the order of importance) cheating with “some bimbo” as the women at the table refer to her or “that hot chic with an ass to die for” as the men prefer to see it?

Then in the midst of that entire hullabaloo, you exclaim, “at least my man is not like that.”

It is unlikely you notice the knowing glances exchanged between the dudes; or the stifled cough meant to camouflage a laugh. More often than not it is so subtle you would never notice it – more so if the people at the table are your man’s boys.

If you are the type who has read the last paragraph and gone on the defensive, waxing lyrical about the way that’s just a stereotype and that there are actually good men out there, then you need to grab yourself some coffee and get comfortable – because I am talking to you.

Now, we are not contesting that there are good men out there – there are. Heck, a good man is writing this article. However, wait for this they are all taken. Trust me. We can argue this out until the cows come home, but it is not an opinion. It is a fact.

It gets worse. Just because the “good ones” are taken does not mean they are that good. “Good” here does not mean the non-cheating type. It means

  1. They are so good at cheating they have not been caught yet.
  2. They do not do it often enough to get caught.
  3. You are too blind and trusting to see the writing on the wall. Perhaps you suspected it and was offered some shoddy evidence but you believed him when he told you otherwise.

You remember now?

Just like your father cheated on your mother when she was pregnant; just like your boss cheats on his adorable wife; just like your pastor cheats with the praise and worship leader and just like your professor cheats with your MBA classmate, men are men first and foremost, then the other figures they are in society.

Never forget that.

Do not be too hard on yourself for realising that your man is not as “good” as you thought. He is, after all, a man.

Yours (and someone else’s)


  • Mary Njagi

    I couldn't agree with you more!

  • sera

    I like your candidness. I was a victim, but have now joined the game…why get my heart broken when i can have safe fun with multiple partners?

  • Alex

    Spot on !

  • marie

    right on the mark!

  • Pauline Kibe

    very very true… I like the meaning of "good" in this article very practial.

  • Michael Mbithi

    On the mark man but dont give it all away, very well written am impressed.

  • Ken Ambani

    Sad that we only look at one side of the coin…… FOR THE MAN TO CHEAT THERE HAS TO BE A WOMAN INVOLVED AND IN MOST INSTANCES ACCORDING TO RESEARCH, IT HAPPENS TO BE MARRIED WOMEN who sadly think like the writer!!!
    There exists NO corruption if the giver does "offer" and FINALLY if you live in Kenya watch the 2 versions of Jimmy Gathu's "mpango wa kando" tvc. TRUST is the key to ANY relationship!!

  • nicholas kiplimo

    now this is empowering women. nani huyu anafungua file yetu?

  • lawrence

    Men! Men! Men! we are just unique…thats our Nature n I totally agree wit the writer that there is no such thing as a good Man."Mwanaume mzuri ni ule amekufa"

  • Israel

    Bravo, it was about time that someone cleared the “good ones”are already taken.. thing out, believe me you and if they had grabbed themselves some coffee and got comfortable.. That must be the best Mocca or whatever they were having of their life for it was the ultimate. wakeup mug.. Kuddos once again.

  • JoniBGood

    Still one of the good ones out there… Seems guys and chicks ain't matured enough to see the stupidity of the game… Won't deny the game has hurt me but then again, I'm a believer….

  • winjoy

    men cheat, and i mean men without exeption. Am a woman and i know that for a fact. Its not right, but its the bitter trueth. The sooner we as women accept that fact the better, because then only can you b happy.

  • caroline

    i agree………a man is a man, yours (and someone elses)

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  • Am glad this whole talk focuses on men! Thats why women are thought to be “good” because they do it and their men are too blind to take notice.

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  • Daisy Atieno

    That’s why we women cheat on them and they never suspect because they think they are the bad ones and us too good..i pity men with their naivety.

  • Sam Njuwe

    The disease that is generalization… SMH
    Uncle Stan, you have not met every man in this world. It is therefore impractical to say we’re all the same or we all cheat.
    I have never cheated. And that’s something I would gladly say with Bible in hand.
    I am happy with my girlfriend and am disturbed when I read such articles. It is because of such that good relationships start getting rocky.
    Please be objective. Or else, leave well alone.

  • Sam njue…. is that out of choice or lack of opportunity….. id bet on lack of opportunity.

    • Sam Njuwe

      Out of choice bro. And am not gonna waste time proving that to you.

  • Karranja

    depends on the breed, and the size of the leash,,, if your guy is a dobberman or a german shepherd well youve got ur work cut out, bt if yu got urself a poodle, chihuahua or a spitz ,,, uuuuhhhm enjoy the ride

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