Signs she is taking advantage of you

This world is made up of different people with diverse characters who by the way happen to be looking for one thing or the other. There are those who are out to use you, some want to be used by you, some want to abuse you, some want to be loved and not reciprocate the love and maybe just take advantage of your kindness. This latter lot is what we will tackle today.

Sometimes being overly nice whether you are male or female can land you into traumatizing situations. There are women who have mastered the game of using people like they use their own right hands and then treat the same people like something gooey they scraped off their shirt.

Situation: You meet this lovely girl, you like what you see and therefore you try to win her heart… then unfortunately you show her a side of you that you shouldn’t show prematurely to anyone. That side that you only show people who feel you in the same way you feel them. Show a girl  prematurely that you can be her walking ATM and you get yourself  one happy girl who will feel nothing for you but you but everything for your pockets and plastic cards.

Below are simple signs that she is just out to take advantage of you:

PS; The advantage taken could either be emotional or financial

-She is mega embarrassed of you

-She never introduces you to anyone

-She never introduces you to anyone as her boyfriend

-She never lets you meet any of her friends or family

-She feels and looks uncomfortable when out with you in public (almost looks embarrassed and like she wants to run away and hide)

-She hangs out with you when she wants something

-She is never up for just hanging out with you

-She never helps you with anything even if it is just to give you her shoulder to lean on

-She always has this or that problem that always involves money

Have you heard the saying money makes everyone attractive

-She never goes out of her way to do anything special for you

-She only calls when she needs something from you even when you are the one who sent her credit.

-She never wants to get physical with you. You only get a kiss when you get her something or when you give her money.

-She only uses the four letter word (LOVE) tactfully.

-She flirts with your friends

-She flirts with other people in front of you

-She checks out other men and comments on how hot they are and never cares about what you feel when she says such things.

-She is just plain insensitive to your feelings.

-It is always about HER, her problems and her tears.


-She never calls or texts apart from when she needs something from you.

It always has to be something that will be gainful to her

-She looks for you every end month

-She only chooses to go to expensive restaurants

-She never cares to ask about how you are doing.

In short...Watch out for this woman if you want to keep your sanity!


Oprah Winfrey once said : “Lots of people want to ride in the limo, but what you want is someone who will take the bus with you when the limo breaks down.”

Will she take that bus with you?

***Signs HE is taking advantage of you coming up soon.

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  1. sara October 19th, 2012 at 3:50 pm

    mmh…guess i stand accussed……… bad:(

  2. Jane Wavinya October 19th, 2012 at 5:08 pm

    Hahaha i love this Article, I’m not sure if i ever taken advantage or a person for granted like that, apart from my best friend who according to me she seems to feel like it is her responsibility to take care of me basically because i earn way less than :). I’d be ashamed if i did…… If i did sorry y’all

  3. The Inspired Bride October 21st, 2012 at 12:35 am

    Nice article, I think is one “She hangs out with you when she wants something” is usually the biggest sign 🙂

  4. rama October 22nd, 2012 at 11:04 am

    tru stuff

  5. Mauryn October 22nd, 2012 at 3:51 pm

    i do not completely agree with this article, the Kenyan woman of today, not all of course, have improvised better ways and means to maneuver their way into the guys pocket without the guy noticing a thing….. fore instance they would do anything the man asks of them, she would tell her she loves him; dosen’t matter whether she does or not, she would check up on him constantly to see if hes okay e.t.c just as long as at the end of the day her pocket is credited. Money rules and the terms of play on how to attain it have changed. amjussaying

  6. Carolynar October 23rd, 2012 at 4:53 pm

    “She never calls or texts apart from when she needs something from you…” <— expect her calls every end month!!

  7. Dominque Emm Muchema September 13th, 2013 at 4:12 pm

    relatively informative read…now I know!


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