To tell or not to tell? That is the question!

I have this girlfriend X who has this boyfriend W that she has been seeing for a little over two years now. Their relationship is like any other…it has more ups than downs and all I can say is that they are in a good place. Well, I thought things were all good but I was wrong!

I have this other friend Y who has been single and looking ever since I can remember. So you can imagine my excitement when Y announced that she was seeing someone. Finally! All those pity party sessions of me re-assuring her how much of a looker she is and that her prince charming may have gotten lost trying to find his way to her were over. She couldn’t wait for me to meet this new, tall, handsome, stranger -as she had described him- and who was I not to be anxious to meet him? I shall call this new man D.

That I meet D and give my approval was a big deal for Y so on the ‘D-day’ –pun so intended- she arranged a little something at Art Caffe and even volunteered to let it be her treat! (Hallelujah! D has never volunteered to pay for anything for anyone. Maybe she needs to stay in love as she wears it well).

I dressed up and made my way to Art Caffe but just before I went inside something caught my eye. Y was staring intimately into D’s eyes, whispering something and smiling ever so coyly like a girl in love. Cute right? Wrong! Something was very wrong with that picture because… D was actually W! Yes W who is also D is dating two of my good friends at the same time! My two friends don’t know each other. Maybe they’ve met in passing through me and said quick hellos but they don’t really know each other.

After seeing what I saw. I spun around and got out of Westgate as fast as I could because I didn’t want to risk D who is W seeing me. I had to call Y and give her a lame story about having a puncture issues that ruined my moods.

Later in the day I called the 2 in 1 D/W and told him I had to speak with him. He was shocked that I know both girls and that I was the “S” Y has always talked about and also the same S who didn’t show up to meet them at Art Caffe. He was more shocked though when I told him I was going to tell on him.

See, I am this girl who would rather come clean about something and be hated about it while I will have saved somebody’s feelings and saved them tears and maybe help keep their sanity intact (I believe they will always come back to you when they realize you were just looking out for them) than not tell and people involved find out that you knew something that involved them and then hate you forever!

D/W pleaded with me not to tell any of the girls that he was seeing them both. He said he didn’t understand what he was going through but apparently he was in love with both girls. He confessed to having some issues with X but he doesn’t want to let her go because she is a lovely person. In short he is just one confused man. I didn’t promise him that I wouldn’t tell, but just said that I was going to think about it some more.

I am in a quandary here people. A really big one! I don’t want to crush Y’s feelings because I tell you she has been looking for this man to call boyfriend for most of the years I’ve known her as a friend.

I also don’t want to sabotage my friendship with X because she is my very good friend and if she knew something heavy like that about me she wouldn’t hesitate to tell me!

I know I am treading on murky grounds here. I will lose either way. While I think it is none of my business what W/D does with his life or who he sees I feel for my dear girls. I might lose both of them whether I tell or keep mum…these things always come back to haunt you I tell you. Of that I am sure. What should I do?


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  1. Guru October 3rd, 2012 at 2:23 pm

    All the Algebra-esque lettering made me shut off. All I know is you were supposed to have a free treat at Art Caffe. That, you reminded us 3 (or more) times

  2. sister October 3rd, 2012 at 2:36 pm

    i love ur response guru!

  3. Carolynar October 3rd, 2012 at 3:58 pm

    Okay, I have to read this again !

  4. mercy macheche October 3rd, 2012 at 5:16 pm

    do tell. put urself in their shoes, i would think that u would want ur friend to tell u instead of making faces n smilling sheepishly wen u start talking of ur “boyfy”, imagine how pathetic it is for both of them to tell u stories about good their boyfriend is n the promises he is making to them yet u know its not going anywhere….tell em


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