I believe there are men…

(By Mercy Macheche) I have had my fair share of heartbreaks and those moments when I cried my eyeballs out and swore that I will never ever get into a relationship again only to “relapse” after a month and repeat the same vicious cycle.

Call me a hopeless romantic or a dreamer but I want to believe that there are:

*Men out there who will initiate conversations because they can’t wait to see what you will say next.

*Men who want to go on dates, real Dates, not to a dimly lit bar that is loud and he has to scream at the top of his lungs to tell you that he really likes you, while a patron behind you is groping your ass.

*Men who want to talk to you for longer than just one drink after work and longer than what’s enough to get you in bed.

*Men who you won’t have to try and convince to see you.

*Men who don’t play games of ice and fire, today they are hot, tomorrow they are cold.

*Men who have grown past cryptic messages that give you hell decoding them.

*Men who don’t have sex as their driving force and motivation, but just love being around you.

*There are men who want to hold your hand in public and enjoy walking around stores shopping for things they can’t afford, but love the feeling of your tiny fingers interlaced with their huge bony knuckles.

*Men who want to show you off to the stranger on the street because they find you so incredibly intoxicating and amazing.

*Men who don’t care what people think with you by their side, and are pleased to be someone you chose to roam about town with.

*There are men who are honestly proud of you and your successes and not intimidated by them.

*Men who are amazed by your determination, passion and hard work.

*Men who see the things in you that you don’t notice or decide to ignore.

*Men who will not introduce you as a buddy to their friends and family and yet you have been dating for months and are excited to show you off  even to the women who try to pick them up in bars.

*There are men who aren’t unavailable, who are not ripe with excuses why the timing or the situation or the feeling or the possibility is just not right.

*Men who don’t hesitate on title changes or commitment.

*Men who want to grow with you, love you the best they can, be with you as long as you allow them to.

*There are men who see your insecurities and help you work on them.

*Men who don’t point fingers when your relationship starts crumbling but work on it with you.

*Men who want their face to be the first thing you see in the morning and the last thing you see in the evening.

*Men who even in a crowd of ladies will pick you because they see that X-factor in you.

*Men who are not perfect but appreciate that you have accepted them for who they are and in turn appreciate you 100 fold.

*Men who wont walk out on you when the tide is high.

*Men who are firm, grounded, sane and know what they want. Men who won’t cheat on you and blame it on the “heat of the moment”.

*Men who listen to you, to your hopes and dreams and believe in them.

*Men who know what to say, when to say and how to say when you’ve had a rough day, men who know that you don’t take advise in the worst of situations, buy you’ll want to hear it in the morning.

*There are men who like the way you look in that sexy hot dress as well as in those pyjamas and baggy sweaters.

*Men who want to watch the wrinkles form around your eyes and around your mouth, because they’ve spent decades listening to that laugh, the laugh that made their days better.

*Men who will leave you notes around the house to let you know just how much they love you.

*Men who send you sweet or dirty messages during the day, even after you’ve been married for fifteen years.

*Men who adore all the things that make you a woman, even when those things bear babies instead of nights of sexual pleasure, even when those things drag instead of rise to occasions.

Is this too much for a girl to believe and hope for?


Mercy Macheche

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  1. Avatar Divine Drumist September 25th, 2012 at 12:18 pm

    This kind of men are almost, no are actually now extinct.

  2. Avatar luthercrop September 25th, 2012 at 12:43 pm

    that’s one hell of a list ….bt trust me there are such men problem is the same same women who want all this in/from a man…

  3. Avatar Lydia September 25th, 2012 at 12:45 pm

    I believe they exist…I met one already but the only thing he couldn’t take is intimidation..well if their ego is sooothed then the rest you will receive at 100% save for those two issues i.e intimidation by ones success and being passionate about something you do especially when they dont enjoy what they do, careers et al

  4. Avatar Theo Junior September 25th, 2012 at 2:20 pm

    this is a lady who waited for a man with all the above qualities

  5. Avatar Muthoni K September 25th, 2012 at 2:47 pm

    My eyes are wet might mess up my make up

  6. Avatar Tony September 25th, 2012 at 6:34 pm

    I could write over a thousand same comments for the kind of a woman men want… It would still be a stalemate. My two cents: They don’t exist, and if they do, they don’t exist for everyone out there. Only a chosen few. Infact a selective few.

  7. Avatar George September 26th, 2012 at 3:36 pm

    Yeeeeeeees they exist “In Atwoli’s voice”

  8. Avatar Ferdinand Bett September 26th, 2012 at 3:40 pm

    Some Ladies should be real! some lady tried me and i think she is happy!

  9. Avatar eric tyler September 28th, 2012 at 11:00 am


  10. Avatar mercy macheche September 28th, 2012 at 3:14 pm

    this list is soooo real.. it does not talk of a perfect guy but of a guy who tries and works on ur relationship on a day by day basis

  11. Avatar tao September 28th, 2012 at 4:00 pm

    I am agree with you……every women wants the men who have all these qualities……

  12. Avatar Ness October 2nd, 2012 at 11:54 am

    Funny how the men who actually have these qualities cannot comment on this post despite the fact that they agree 100%. Men if you want a woman to submit to you then you have to give her a reason to and all the above can make any girl/woman/lady the best ‘thing’ that has ever happened to you. N for crying out loud get that ‘Gold-digger’ mentality out of your heads just because she likes you doesn’t mean your little paycheck can take care of her. She d proly buy you off!!

  13. Avatar Real G October 10th, 2012 at 2:26 pm

    No it’s probably not too much to ask for,it would take a lot of conviction for a man to be all these things but it is not too much for a girl to believe and hope for. Someone should come up with such a list on women as well

  14. Avatar B October 15th, 2012 at 4:50 pm

    …And what if you want to be these things and your girl wouldn’t let you???

  15. Avatar Sam October 17th, 2012 at 8:56 am

    I believe and know there are men who still have the attributes described, we had an etiquette class back in lower class, imagine the simple ones still are working…Listening, appreciating.. saying thank you..


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