:You are selfish

It is true that selfish people love and care for themselves only making it hard for them to care unconditionally for other people. When you are selfish, you want everything done on your own terms. It is always about you  and you don’t care about other people’s feelings and this will make it hard for you to maintain even a simple relationship.

:You still refuse to grow up and take responsibility for past failures

When you find yourself still blaming your ex for the wrong he/she did instead of looking at it maturely that both of you had a part to play in things not working out then you are not ready for a relationship. Owning up to your mistakes and the role you played or didn’t play will help you heal faster making you open to the next stage of life that is devoid of blame shifting.

:You find yourself in another relationship soon after the failed one

Giving yourself time to heal is very important. It means that you are clearing your bags making space for new things to come. Especially when you are coming from a long relationship, you should take time to heal as this will also reduce the impact of future heart- breaks. Jumping from one relationship to another just to avoid being single never works in the long run.