Have you ever come to the realization of a truth that left you completely puzzled? Have you ever come to a realization that just jolted you out of your world and into what seems like another planet? Have you ever been talking to a foreigner and you have so much to say but you just do not speak the same language? I have. I found myself in a relationship with a man, a real man and realized that in doing so I had set off on a mission o Mars.
With all the technology today has to offer, I have to say that when it comes to understanding men and women there is no GPS, there is no dictionary for what words mean, when a man says a word or hears it and what it means when a woman says or hears it. The most trying part of all is that there is no manual. Ok I know that the Bible has much to say about men and women, husbands and wives but when it comes to the book on how men are wired or on understanding a woman, it is a whole new journey. At times I feel like the Bible was written for earth but men are from Mars and more is needed.
I found a book that I personally have to share with all of you; ‘For Women Only’ The book is about what you need to know about the inner lives of men. There is also another one,‘For Men Only’ by Shaunti Feldhahn. I have not read the entire book yet but each single page is just mind blowing revelation about these beings called men. It is not the kind of book you can read overnight, it is that interesting. It is also the kind of book that stops you dead in your tracks. It is basically a book that teaches women how to speak ‘martian’.
recall a preacher saying that people need people. I recall the many couples I have seen getting married and I am amazed that a man and woman who are both so different can co exist and even live together till death do them part. It is amazing that even with all our differences, God looked and saw that Adam needed an Eve and even called her suitable. I find comfort in the fact that God does not make mistakes, I find it encouraging that he says he who finds a wife finds a good thing. Now that is surely something! I now understand why without God marriage fails. This is because it takes God’s love, grace, wisdom and guidance to make a successful relationship.
I would encourage each of us to take time to seek God on relationship matters. There are General views about the behavior of men and women in relationships and these are just stereotypes. Remember your partner is an individual, whose behavior is subject to his own experiences, personality, and their own uniqueness. Take time to understand Gods word which says that women should respect their husbands and husbands should love their wives. Why love one and respect the other? That is how we are wired. Let God and your partner teach you how to relate and to love them. Obviously, you must be willing and ready to learn. Be ready and willing to take the mission to Mars or Venus.