A Capital Lifestyle Magazine reader shares their story on how her bestfriend actually secretly wants her man. Remember, the the views expressed are solely the opinion of the reader, and not Capital’s.
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Mickey and I have been colleagues for the last five years, and over time, we have become the closest friends. He’s lent his shoulder for me when I’ve cried over breakups with my boyfriends, I bake him cupcakes when I know he’s upset over something, we go shopping together, and we make regular appearances to the hottest parties in Nairobi together. If it weren’t for the obvious fact that Mickey is gay, most people would assume we were a happy couple.
I love Mickey, but recently, since I have shared with him that I’m dating this new guy, he’s been a bit…b*tchy.
At first, I thought he was simply being over-protective. But, as the weeks past, the small things that I use to brush off have snowballed into obvious signs of competition. I think Mickey is totally into my new guy, and even, secretly hoping he’s gay.
Makes me feel bad
Mickey often pulls me aside, and tells me really hurtful things, “Christopher is not the one for you. He’s playing you and he just wants to hook up with you. You’re not special.” When asked about why he thinks that, like does he know something that I should know, Mickey always falls short of answering the important questions. Other days, he puts me down and comments on how “fat” and “ugly” I look. Mickey is putting me down.
Flirting with my guy
When we all hang out together, boyfriend, myself and Mickey, I always feel like I’m the third wheel. Mickey always leads. He orders my boyfriend’s drink without asking, asks if he’s cold, holds his jacket when he goes to the loo, and leans in during conversations so much that sometimes, even my boyfriend feels awkward.
In an effort to understand if Mickey really does want my boyfriend, I set up a sting operation. One day at the office, I rushed to his desk, distraught and upset, and told him that Christopher just told me something over the phone and I was really sad. The first thing that Mickey said to me was, “Did he tell you he was actually gay?!” Nope, he didn’t ask me if I was ok or anything…
There are many more instances when I’ve questioned Mickey’s loyalty, but regardless, I need your help! I really like Mickey as a friend, but what can I do? Perhaps, I should just reserve sharing personal feelings with him, and keep him close since he’s ultimately an enemy? But, I guess I can’t hate Mickey as well. He’s just behaving like any other woman who’s interested in my boyfriend.