Ladies, here are 5 tips to better your sex life

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At a party during the long Easter weekend I met a Sexologist who is visiting friends in the country. We got talking and of course I got a couple of answers. We even talked about why African women are said to be rigid in bed.  This she explained was so because #1. Africans are not so comfortable with nudity and #2. since we tend to be fuller in body proportions than our Caucasian sisters we are sort of shy when it comes to being naked in front of somebody else. Some women can’t even keep eye contact with their partner after intercourse.

The sexologist continued to explain that  sex is important and it gives you that special bond with your significant other hence should be enjoyed by all means. Her “tips” to enjoying sex fully was actually just one broad tip “Taking your sex life into your own hands” which she further broke down into 5 tips as follows:

 

#Work on your body

Feeling good about yourself and having confidence in yourself is the key to having amazing sex. And how do we achieve this? By working out of course! Walking, hitting the gym, cycling etc… Working out does wonders to your whole being! You look and feel great always. Once you work your body into shape, everything else will fall into place.

 

#Love yourself

Stand in front of the mirror completely stackers and check yourself out. Check out both the front and rear thoroughly… spend about 15 minutes just looking at yourself and admiring or otherwise …and note the areas of your body that you like or don’t like but mainly the aim is to know your body and feel comfortable in your own skin. The person staring back at you is none other than yourself. Understanding your body will go a long way into understanding the kind of sex that you like.

 

#Speak to your doctor

Sometimes we let ourselves suffer in silence when it comes to sex because we are shy to talk about it to anyone. Sex is something so natural so it should be an enjoyable experience. If you have symptoms that make sex a weird experience for you say… pain, difficulty reaching an orgasm,  dryness,  problems with genital sensation, or difficulty feeling your partner … by all means talk to your doctor about it. Doctors are human beings like you and they also have sex so they won’t judge you and the best part is that they will help you with a solution.

 

#Allow yourself to enjoy and love sex fully!

Ask for what you want and don’t be afraid to guide  your partner. If you enjoy a particular style, let your partner know and even let him know how it makes you feel. Letting him know what you like helps both of you to even make it better the next time and the next. This also helps you to take your own pleasure into your own hands which is totally allowed. Speak the truth because at the end of it we always want what we want right? In the same breath, try out new styles and decide whether you like it or not.

Tell yourself things like:

*I’m allowed to enjoy this

*This is good for my body

*This is good for my relationship

*I am entitled to sexual pleasure

#Turn your bedroom into a sexual haven

Bedrooms are for sleeping and having sex! So it should be without clutter of any kind. No stacks of  files and books, no clothes all over the place, no computers and laptops and the room should be well aired. Choose a nice romantic piece of artwork to hang on your bedroom wall, invest in good quality bedsheets, your curtains should be on point to help create that romantic mood. In fact take time to make your bedroom a sexual retreat of a kind. A place where you can have amazing sex and enjoy every minute of.

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MAUREEN OJUNGA

Maureen Ojunga is the newest Health enthusiast in town. She is also a gadget freak and a lover of all things WINE! Besides being a lover of life, she enjoys writing Relationships and Sex pieces and is also an Interior design junkie.

  • interesting….

  • I like this!

  • Alizika11

    This is pure truth thanks for sharing without fear.Men also need their version.
     

  • This is great.what about the culprits(men)?

  • Cate

    I can’t believe this, was that really a doctor who gave such slight advice? The problem is not our body size, even the skinny white women hate their bodies and most of them simulate orgasm, so don’t tell every other woman out there that they have to be slim. SEX has been taboo in African life, In church, in school at home when I was young, sex was a sin, I don’t think it has changed that much, Women, you can enjoy sex as long as you are free in mind to acknowledge your desires, talk about them, to see that they are met by your partner. Sex if giving and Hi, how many men, who just climb on a woman and relieve themselves without caring how she feels? How many of us women are ignorant of these desires??? The first step to having a better sex, is meeting yourself, Discovering your body, how you feel by letting yourself go without boundaries.

  • divad onaim

    what i can say, sex is not a sin if done with the right person. so we should be open to each other.anyway this is so nyc

  • Keep them coming Maureen.

  • esther

    hey look like amazed my body truely

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