Dating: The Nigerian take-over

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Kenyan men don’t like Nigerians anymore. This time round, it has nothing to do with the ideas and nightmares their wives and girlfriends get after watching Afro-cinema. It’s because they are getting all the girls!

It is not uncommon to see many a gorgeous Kenyan girl painting the arms of flashy Nigerian men. When they dance and twirl them around in clubs, the looks of disdain almost jump off the faces of Kenyan men.

Even though the official population of women exceeds that of men, Kenyan males are not happy about all the interest the women have suddenly developed for Nigerian men.

What started off with trepidation because of all Nigerian men in Kenya being suspected to be drug dealers or con artists, is now in full swing because honest businessmen and diplomats from the West African nation have nearly wiped out that notion.

As a result, Kenyan ladies have been unable to resist the charms of the often tall well-dressed men.

*Hellen says the reason she would prefer to date a Nigerian man is because they treat their women with more respect.

“Even if they were being unfaithful to you, you would never be able to guess. They buy you clothes, flowers and other beautiful things without expecting anything in return. It makes you feel special.”

She has also branded Kenyan men as liars and unromantic – at least most of them.

However, Kenyan men insist that it’s all about the money.

*Mark says Kenyan women are greedy and are only interested in money and nothing else.

“They are dating Nigerians because of money. Most of them just want to sit at home and keep getting money. Its nonsense,” he says.

But *Betty is of a different opinion.

“It’s about attention. They give us loads of attention. At the end of the day that’s all a girl wants. Not all of them have money. And just like our Kenyan men, when they are a broke ass, they are a broke ass. But when they have money, unlike our Kenyan men, they will spend it on us.”


She says with Kenyan men, they will rarely spend their cash on their girlfriends, preferring to lavish gifts on their ‘ndogo ndogos’ instead.

In Nigerian-Kenyan relationships the first attraction is grooming. Nigerian men dress and smell good, and often their women are meant to be a reflection of who they are.

“You see that bag, I bought that for her. You see that beautiful hair, I took her to the salon.”

With the West Africans it’s not a struggle. With their Kenyan men however, girls often resort to nicking cash when the boys come home drunk with lipstick on their shirts.

*Fred on his part thinks that Nigerian men chat up Kenya chicks because they are easy.

“Nigerian women are harsh and not too easy. So it’s not difficult for them to bag a Kenyan chick.”

Elsewhere, *Peter agrees that Kenyan men mistreat their women, and don’t respect them.

“Most of us only want women for sex, and its clear from the get go. Once we get that we mistreat them. There are very few Kenyan men who have genuine respect for women.”

With all said and done, where does the fault really lie, and is there anything wrong with all the girls going to Nigerian dudes? Has your girl been snapped up by a Nigerian? What are your thoughts? Leave your comment below…

*Not real names.

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  • Anonymous

    Laura, having lived among Nigerians for the better part of 3 years, I can say that Kenyan women are in for a rude shock. For starters, if you intend to marry a Nigerian man you better be prepared to come 2nd because a Nigerian man MUST marry a Nigerian woman upende usipende. And the lady who says they lavish their women with gifts without expecting anything in return, rest assured you’ll pay for it once the ring is on your finger. And you better be prepared to be treated as his property because these men are jealous and possessive as hell

  • C.JAY Miller

    The naked truth is the Kenyan woman has become too materialistic and that’s the driving force ..you have no chance when chasing a Kenyan woman with an Oga as the competition all because one he is exotic and two..the assumption that he is Rich!..No Romance without Finance so the Kenyan woman say..THEY CONTINUE to say Love ended with Romeo & Juliet…A kenyan woman say’s ..Kenyan men ain’t all that and a Kenyan Say Kenyan women are material driven… i say  race & boundaries are no longer restricted in the Dating game so go out there and find your Prince/princess…it a free world. 

  • Lucheli

    Whether from Nigeria, Somalia or Kenya.. A man is a man.. If he buys you flowers (when fuel is 120 and sugar is 400), dresses, takes you to the salon etc means 1 of 3 things..
    1. You just started dating
    2. You are his mpango wa kando or
    3.  He’s cheating on you.  

    Kenyan men are real, thats the quality our ladies fail to see in us. 

  • A lot of Kenyan men come from communities where courtship and marriage was a communal affair. Our forefathers never courted as marriages were arranged and a man and a woman ended up together based on principles far removed from any form of courtship or relationship. If anything courtship like one of your subjects has stated is that the Nigerian man buys her clothes and i don’t know what, Something our forefathers would have condemned as spoiling the wife.

    When the colonialists came, they brought with them a lot of changes, where all women were liberated and educated and the cultural practices were banished in favor of modern systems where a man had to win a woman’s heart to marry her. This is great, in fact with this action women and men could choose partners based on what works for them, but what the colonial masters failed to understand was that we as men had this hereditary tendency to gather around watering holes and imbibe liquor while we count our goats and regale our friends with tales of our heroic acts during the day.The changes brought by the colonial chiefs did not take into account what worked best for us.

    We were shot at for sport and our liquor was banned, we were pursued and forced to conform but being men we were, we still had the natural instinct of grabbing a woman on her way to the river and then negotiating. Why the long story? Well; this is because that woman grabbing nature is still not dead in many a Kenyan man. In fact most pretend to be modern and try their hand at courtship, an act which some gullible Kenyan girl falls for and after marriage she stays at home while the man goes to the “watering hole”disguised as a bar or club (Mututho laws) and engage in imbibing and regaling friends and strangers alike.

    In short nothing has changed from the colonial times only the venues and the tactics used.In very rare situations will you find a Kenyan man has married one “from abroad” and if he has, he always has a Kenyan ndogo ndogo on the side to connect him securely to his Kenyan roots, lest the abroad one lead him astray. On the other hand, when the nigerian men comes to Kenya,  they are like shiny new clothes and our women cant wait to try them on. In fact its seen in some circles as a sense of pride to have a Naija man and so the women run for them regardless of the well known fact that there is no straight nigerian man. But anyway, its just a matter of time before our women get to fully understand that all that glitters is not Gold. Just like Kenyan men, I am sure that every nigerian man who marries/dates a Kenyan girl, has a nigerian girl “back home”, to ground him to his Ibo/Hausa roots.

    So to all Kenyan women who want a Nigerian man, please grab the nearest one, if you need help I can supply you with the schedule of the KQ flights from Lagos every day so that you can be at the airport to get yours still Fresh and unpolluted by the Nairobi men and ways.

    • Monica

      The more things change, the more they remain the same. History always repeats itself albeit in different ways.

  • Nigerian men have cash, that’s why you find a Kenyan woman running to get married without knowing the aim of that person, they pretend to be in love with you but for sure they are after your money. This leads to regrets at the end of the journey which will be too late. We should be proud of  our men no matter the state  they are. Remember east or west home is the best, the perfect man which you can get is from your  country, this will be easy for both of you to understand  each other better and create a strong bond.

    • Carole

      Kenyan ladies need to shine their eyes oh, sepecially if they are in the relationship for all the wrong reasons…money, good life etc, etc. These men can tell if you’re not being genuine and sooner or later, he will show his true colors and that will be the end of the good life! AND getting pregnant with his child (even if its a son) will not be a guarantee that he will stay even if his mother wants the grandchild. He will leave you and get married to someone else. He will support the child, ou can visit the family but that is it!  

      • I agree with you 100% CAROL. Kenyan ladies need to wake up and open up their eyes oooh. 🙂

  • mimijustme

    Nonsense..

  • mimijustme

    Visit Malaysia which has the highest interaction of kenyan women/nigerian men and then write your piece,you will be in shocked at how low kenyans can go to be with this dudes and how the nigerians will treat them,they remain their property and once in the dudes dictate when its over.Book coming out soon..

    • Ireti-Elizabeth Akinroyeje

      Is the book out? It sounds very interesting 🙂

  • Carole

    I lived among Nigerians from the Igbo, Yoruba and Hausa tribes in South East Asia for a good couple of years . My closest friends are Nigerians. They are not all the same. In terms of relationships, some will be in a relationship because they really love the lady, then there are the others….
    The other Nigerians are spenders, if they have the money, they will spend it on you because to them, its nothing. In Asia, alot of the EA girls are dating Nigerians because of the money, flashy lifestyle they provide etc.  These men know that they’re only there because of the money and as much as he may respect you in the beginning, things will change because he has access to any girl he wants. He will cheat on you and still be possesive of you, tracking your every move. Some of the girls even stop going to university because they are busy engaging in 419, driving  around in fancy cars, shopping, partying etc. I do agree, some do treat women well but most of the time, its shortlived. In the end, after the other Nigerian is done with you, he will marry a Nigerian girl (if he already doen’t have one with children in Nigeria).
    All in all, wherever Nigerians are, they take over.

    • Dstivun58

      hey carole i like dat we always take over!

  • Anonymous

    Nonsense

  • justmi

    hey hey nigerian are not soo rude! nigerian are just too sharp they tink faster, under micro-seconds dey know wat a kenya girl is upto,, and cultures are different

  • Sulei

    I wish i could take u out for fancy dinner, buy u a sexy dress that shows ua body curves, buy u lipstick and all make up that will make u reflect all the beauty in the universe but the issues is, if i could do all that for u, what would be the pay?.. is it the enhanced beauty of u thats not real, would u be with me for who i am or what i can do for u?…..foremore as much as i would want to do all that for u, the price to pay is not worthy at the end……

  • Sakharovagency

    I am in SE Asia and was in a relationship with a naija guy. Girls need to experience this shit so they can move on to kenyans or other pple that actualy care. You will do everything for them and they’l do nothing for you. Who cares if they spend money on you? They are spending the same amount of cash on other women everyday. They believe in beating up their chics. I have a friend who gets it rough anytime she looks at a guy. You become more like a zombie when u r together. They will tell you how to sit, talk, cook etc. Its crazy and they are as shady as hell. Women stick to the kenyans, these nigerians dont deserve us. They should all be moved to a different planet and they can do their shit out there. They cause trouble in every country. As we speak it is so hard to move around as a black person in malaysia becuase of what they do.

  • ccgirl

    im sry i dont agree that nigerian men are betta then kenyan men, nigerian men have left a bad taste in my mouth i don’t think there betta, iv found them 2 b cheap, liars, thieves, pigs, and abusers 

  • just-sule

    Nonsense article.

  • Maybe the truth here is only about finances and that is all.A man is a man regardless of the country or region he comes from.Some Kenyan ladies just love foreign men and are cheap as compared to their Nigerian counterparts.Tradition also binds and disciplines people but we kenyans fail to hold and cherish our identity.We are losing our future generation to these people and if we are not carefull,Kenya soon will not have its people.We are losing Mothers.The Nigerians hook  girls for temporary fun and relationship and that is why they must entice our women with all sweeties and they sadly succeed.

  • Bujagali Chic

    Nigerian men are jealous and possessive. He’ll not let you off his sight if you’re his woman. However, they are still 100 times better than most Kenyan men. Much better I tell you (I have dated both). I am a Ugandan woman by the way but give me a Nigerian man over a Kenyan one any day. Give me any man over a Kenyan one. And for those of you who think Kenyan women are easy because they get Nigerian men, what will you say about all the other women in the other African countries who still pick the Nigerians over their men? South African women want Nigerian men. Zimbabwean women want Nigerian men. We Ugandan girls have an obsession for Nigerian men. Even in West Africa, Ghanaian ladies die for Nigerian men. Are they easy as well? Every woman I know complains about Kenyan men. I dated a Kenyan man while working in Kigali, I dated another one while in Nairobi and I came to understand why your women will pick any other man over you. Kenyan men are horrible to the core. Very unromantic and novices in the bedroom.

    I urge Kenyan women most of who are my friends to marry foreign men, even a Ugandan man will treat you women better than those drunks you women have for men. I am married to my Musoga man now, a good Ugandan man who gives me better respect and makes love better than those Kenyan men. And if the only choice you have is a Kenyan man, please take a plane and fly out or live a single life. Where I come from we say, if a man cannot bring pleasure to the tongue (provide food), then at least let him provide pleasure to the body (give good sex). Kenyan men fail in both departments.

    Nigerian man better than a Kenyan man. Ugandan man better than a Kenyan man.

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