March 25, 2011 – Don’t you just hate relationships? I mean really? Well I do, and not because of the typical love-sob-story. You know the one that goes like ‘I’m not good enough’ and ‘we just weren’t compatible-kind-of-garbage?’ Today it’s just venting it out because I’m used to being the ‘hitch’, the one with the good kind of love advice when you need it. Well guys, I’m with the singletons today.
As I was listening to Katy Perry’s ‘hot n cold’ track, I realize many people choose to be single not because they haven’t found a suitable mate, but because they are just tired of being in relationships with a vicious cycle. We are happy today, the next day its crazy arguing. Call it the case of love bipolar she says. Isn’t it just tiring?
I am not saying that being single is great, but it’s refreshing. If you feel you’re in a relationship you want to get out of and you can’t because you are afraid of being alone, then I’m telling you to get out now! Feel free to sample what’s out there and then you’ll know what you want from the next person you want to settle with. At times you give yourself heart saying that the person you’re dating will change and they don’t, so you’re stuck in the same place with the same person while opportunity passes you out there. Its time to break out and live!
I want to give a word of caution to those who break from relationships and jump straight to another. Give yourself some time to recollect and heal. Being single has its benefits; you get to meet new people without an insecure mate breathing down your neck as you scroll down your phone book. You have a chance to experience your fantasies and appreciate yourself. When the time is right, you will find someone worth your time and emotions.
Sometimes when you’re in a relationship you get so down-trodden and you think that there’s nothing better than what you have, think again! That’s what a relationship dictates…that you should hang on no matter what. But has it explored the fact that we are all humans and a point will come out that you will want to break out from the ordinary? All that hurt you have to endure everyday thinking that things will be different…who pays you in the end?? It’s time to wake up and smell the coffee, find new people and experience new stuff.
I am not bashing on the concept of love or coupling, I’m simply saying that you don’t have to force yourself to live up to people’s expectations on love. You don’t have to cry every night on that pillow because he couldn’t take you out for a movie as he had promised. Wake up, put that make-up on or jeans, go to that movie and enjoy yourself. Relish in the fact that you can do something without having to ask for permission or work with someone else’s schedule. You know the kind of couples where your partner want you sad when they are? Or mad when they are? And they totally affect your mood, for no apparent reason whatsoever? You thought you were having a good day then boom!!-bombshell. And you find that you are so dependent on how they relate to you and you just can’t live your life? If you are nodding, it’s definitely time to change things.
Some wise words to the single people out there, don’t be sidetracked by the couples you meet on the street, holding hands and looking all romantic. And you start feeling sorry for yourself, that you have nobody to hold your hand (as if you are a five year old)-pathetic I say! These people get behind closed doors and wish they were you-free of unnecessary baggage. It’s like eating something you craved everyday; at some point it will get dull and boring even though it’s your favorite. So live your single life to the fullest because once you get hitched there is no turning back. You’re either in or out! Emphasis on “in” my people.
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