October 27, 2010 – Ever want something so bad but you can’t have it? Ever dreamt of something for so long without it ever happening? You stomach in permanent butterflies, anticipation that never ends, constant and daily loneliness… that’s a long distance relationship.
People think its easy but oh! take a seat and let me show you just how hard it can be.
First and foremost it must be the distance from someone you Love or like very much… take your pick! When they said distance makes the heart grow fonder (or something like that) they were right (who’s they??) I digress but anyway nothing is as frustrating as knowing you’re with someone and yet not with them.
Then there’s the cold. Yeah I mean cold air, cold temperatures! At 3AM in the middle of July it pays to have someone to cuddle up to, enough said.
Ever gone for a double date and you’re your own date? It’s not funny! Then there’s the rave, you go out partying and it’s time to go home and you get into your cab all by your lonesome and go to fight with your own doors, then there’s the cold bed sheets (again), no one to dance with except those hippies who see you on the dance floor alone and decide to invade your personal space leaving you no room to breathe! Bringing me to another conclusion Nairobi has many vultures (make that very many.)
So a friend invites you for a polite drink with the girls, you guys go and at some late hour every one is on the phone then you hear the bombs being dropped… Stan is coming, then Oh really! so is Michael soon a group of four is now a group of nine.. arrgh!
Then there are those who with the best of intentions decide that you need not be lonely anymore; so they talk to Stan and ask him if he could hook you up with a friend and Stan knows just the guy (he always does). So when your friend cow that she is tells you of this idea, you refuse! “But why?” she whines… for starters because I have a boyfriend and secondly any man who is friends with your boyfriend must be an idiot like him (this you add to yourself). “You don’t have a boyfriend… here” she goes on to add that how can you refuse, he’s such a nice guy, besides you don’t know what your boyfriend is doing wherever he is… Patiently you explain; if he’s so nice then he should not be single.
Nothing is as irritating as a friend pointing out a distant love’s infidelities real or imagined. Why would you want to cause me sleepless nights? When they decide to gang up on you you’ll think you’re sacrificing a child or something equally dastardly (I got this word from Cartoon Network!).
Anyway here’s my take;
1. If my boyfriend is cheating fine! That doesn’t mean I have to because two wrongs don’t make a right and when breaking up the blame will be one-sided (though it never is).
2. Patience is a virtue whose rewards are very sweet! So as my friend please support me as I try to wait!
Another thing that makes long distant relationships so hard is temptations; There are so many temptations and these come when you hardly think you can resist them. you see a hot guy I mean you’re allowed to look after all you’re human and now of all times he notices you, please note if you were single he would never have noticed you, but they say a woman/man in love has a glow and that’s what yummy candy notices when they look at you! You tell them you’re in a relationship and go buy ice cream after all you have no one to keep fit for.
Mvumilivu hula mbivu (The patient person eats the ripe fruit. Google translator rocks hard!! )
So the day you’ve been waiting for finally comes and s/he whom you’ve been waiting for arrives. They surprise you and finally you hold the one you’ve been waiting for! It feels like heaven I imagine and your joy knows no bounds! Finally all those years of waiting are worth it.
P.S. This is a consolation post and for those who haven’t guessed already I’m in a long distance relationship which sucks big time!
P.P.S.To make up for all those “soons” all I want is Kitkat lots of Kitkat (savvy! Ng’ombe?)
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