Kenyans must outgrow the victim feeling

If you do not have sex with me I will kill you. Don’t mess with me, o!

The possible dialogue from the couples who recently argued over conjugal rights might have made material for a funny Nollywood production, but the actual deaths that occurred, left behind a very confusing feeling.

What?! I mean, it is a bit more common to hear that a man demanded for his conjugal rights in the dead of night, but when a woman in Kibera went bonkers and stabbed her husband in the chest for refusing to honour her connubial demands, it was like overkill!

Do you think Kenyans are becoming ‘victim’ crazy? Yes, are they playing the victim a tad too much? It’s TD Jakes who planted this seed in my head.

Let me explain. In this ‘new age’ quest of trying to find ourselves, we discover that the reasons why we do things could be resultant from something that happened in the past.

For instance, you misbehave in your relationships because someone in the past has hurt you very deeply so your partner should understand when you do what you want every now and then.

Or; you have been unable to get a job, so people in your household should support you whether or not you make their lives miserable by drowning in poison-laced cheap liquor. When you go blind, who will take care of you? When you die, who will pay for your funeral? Even funeral announcements are costly for ‘people who don’t care’!

Kenyans, Kenyans, Kenyans, let us stop playing the victim and get our act together. Seriously!

I’m not talking about demanding justice. That is a totally different story. I am talking about NOT taking responsibility for doing silly bad things, and choosing to stew in the pity pot that never really has hot water in it.

Like, Onyancha was bored and didn’t want to live in poverty anymore. That is why he killed all those people and sucked their blood, so that when he gets to the 100th victim, he would be so rich that his days of poverty would never dare return. What?

Are you Kenyan? You might be a victim of being black and not thinking ‘out of the box’. When you meet new people and are forming a bond with them, do you like to tell them about your ‘dark’ past? You might be a victim of mediocrity.

Do you find it hard to stop talking about abuse you suffered as a child or how everyone hates you and now your life is messed forever? You might be a victim of not growing up.

Please tell your neighbour: “Laura is not being insensitive, she just thinks it’s about time Kenyans stopped wasting their lives in ‘victim’ land, took responsibility and lived happily ever after.” I am also trying.

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