Kenyas biggest problem

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By Cassandra Mercy

Everyone knows that the fear of failure is a formidable and paralysing force.

The same can and should be said of the fear of success. Attaining success is fantastic but it brings with it a whole new set of probabilities to deal with.

For one thing it tests one’s limits, exposes well hidden weaknesses and often leads to unchartered waters re field of success. Most people aren’t self aware enough to trust in their ability to achieve and maintain success so they end up indulging in self-sabotaging behaviour.

This is Kenya’s biggest problem; the fear of success ergo self sabotaging.

Here are four reasons why self sabotage will remain our biggest problem no matter how hard we try to develop this country especially on a social level.

Inability to focus

Kenyans like to party, throw a splash. This is not “partying” in the literal sense but in the “campaign mode” sense of the word. Take the proposed constitution for instance; instead of getting on ground and doing some useful and very necessary civic education, politicians are organising huge expensive cross country rallies and whipping crowds into an emotional frenzy.

This is the equivalent of getting drunk and stoned the night before a big presentation and is a sure sign of self sabotage. Imagine what would happen if the campaigning was made illegal and the only people with authority to give civic education would be non partisan, intelligent and less likely to inject emotional and tribal overtures into the process.

Culture of procrastination

No one loves to procrastinate more than Kenyans. As country, we’re reactionary. This is a country that enjoys a constant state of crisis. Vision 2030 is a pipe dream and you know why? Because we’ll have spent all the allocated money on prior major disasters like perennial flooding, contaminated maize and the TJRC. How do you plan a constitutional referendum and then not think out the logistics to disburse funds for civic education?

It’s a safe bet to say someone somewhere was thinking to himself, “We’ll deal with it when the time comes.” Well the time came and just about went! If you putter around instead of taking care of business, you are subconsciously sabotaging yourself.

All talk and no action

It would be easy to accuse our leaders of laziness because they have no achievements worth mentioning. However, while certain behaviour may come across as laziness, it reveals itself soon enough to be a fear of success. For instance, the News is full of “leaders” talking with fake ideological conviction of peace and prosperity and the rights of the common man and yet these people can’t be bothered to attend parliament and air their constituents’ views.

They collectively lack the moral will to take practical steps and exert some self-discipline towards the direction of their supposedly nationalistic goals. NGOs are vociferous and well funded yet none of them (the exception being wildlife organisations) has really achieved anything in this country. Face it; the people who should be looking after our interests aren’t interested in us hence no tangible action is ever taken to really effect change.

Negativity and pessimism

Kenyans tend to vote for people with negative and pessimistic thoughts. Every time you hear our leaders talk, they are either attacking each other or telling us how deplorable the state of our country is. They will naturally talk of a better Kenya and all that razzmatazz but not before they tell you that we’re approaching a “failed state” and that the country is entrenched in impunity.

This means that when you tell people about this country, the only proud moments you can come up with are Wangari Maathai, our runners and our animals. There has never been a statue erected to a critic, our leaders are incessant, sometimes vindictive and quite often petty critics. Enough said.

Self sabotage provides an easy escape hatch for when things go horribly wrong. It allows for blame games, lack of responsibility and an underachieving mentality. The socio-economic leadership of a country reflects strongly on the people who give it authority. Kenya has a bunch of self sabotaging individual calling the shots, what does that say about you?
 

(Cassandra Mercy is a producer with the Music Research Department at Capital FM)

 

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    Am dun ogendi, this Valentine am planning to celebrate with my baby sister, she means a lot to me.  Mostly i want  to treat her for the hard work she does around the house and finding dinner ready when i come from work, just to appreciate her ill not mind that Classic Pizza combo.

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  • Victor

    Am Victor..I wanna Celebrate this Valentine with my Girlfriend who has been away for 3 years because of school..She is coming to Visit me this Valentine

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    My name is Jacque Lungahi, i will be spending my valentine’s at home with my dad-in law in Ugenya…ever since mum-in law passed  on last year i can only imagine that hes been very lonely…so we are travelling there with my hubby and my son….we leave on saturday….

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    Hi, my name is Joshua Mwangi and i want to celebrate this valentines day with my uncle and aunt (Nahashon and Gladys Macharia) This is because they helped me through my college life giving me shelter and food and the time to do my projects. I love them so much and i havent gotten a way to say thank you to them. I am looking forward to this valentines to do that so, please fanta, make my valentines. I love fanta!

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    Julia Akinyi
    This valentines day i will spend with my daughter Natalia and the dad Donald, who has not been there for us since she was born but has accepted responsibility now.
     

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    Hi.. My name is Florence Njagi and I want to celebrate my valentines with my husband.. He is special to me because since the birth of our daughter 10 months ago he has patiently been by my side even when I was going crazy and did not seem to know what I was doing.. I just want to remind him that despite having a baby he is also very very important to me.

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    Am Shiru and will be celebrating Valentines day with my boyfriend. We have been going out for 6 months now and we are in a long distance relationship but we plan to make time and see each other on the 14th. Fanta will make it better if i could win the voucher 🙂

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    Hi am Carol and i would like to celebrate this Valentines with my mom. She’s been such an inspiration to me and i want to thank her for the way she’s molded me to the person i am today.However, am extremely broke as i had to pay for my siblings school fees and am sure a gift hamper from Fanta will go a long way to treating my mum.

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  • osborn

    Hallo, am Osborn Aristo and i would like to celebrate this Valentine with my wife Mary, i have been out of City, Nairobi for longer days of my past two years, but thank God i got my annual leave as early as this month, February. She is my everything to me being around or not and taking care of my FAMILY. She is the one to be with this valentine.

  • Wycliffe Barasa

    Am Barasa,. I live at the coast and my wife and kid live in nairobi. I have been busy since October last year and haven’t seen them. I have been lucky to have a one week off and would wish to celebrate with them.

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    I am Isabell Bockle.Valentine to me has not been that special year in year out.I have no one to enjoy that special moment with.Hoping that FANTA will help change 2012 for me so that i may have fun times atleast with my friends. Just need that extra boost to make my valentine day special.Please make it for me :-D.. Friendship is a silent gift of nature. More old..more strong. More deep..more clear. More close..more warm Less words..more understanding.

  • Isabell Bockle

    I am Isabell Bockle.Valentine to me has not been that special year in year out.I have no one to enjoy that special moment with.Hoping that FANTA will help change 2012 for me so that i may have fun times atleast with my friends. Just need that extra boost to make my valentine day special.Please make it for me :-D.. Friendship is a silent gift of nature. More old..more strong. More deep..more clear. More close..more warm Less words..more understanding.

  • Isabell Bockle

    MA FAVorite….,’ANDY’..:-D..

  • Jayrah
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  • Sam

    honest and well written, be there before and only getting around to do the same.

  • Drew

    Nicely put. Well written. I like you’re writing style. Rare to come across nicely written articles on these Interwebs nowadays. Keep it up. 🙂

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