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The Death of a Close Friend and What it Taught Me #RIPChristineMaina

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I’m a man who loves God, yet I’ve sometimes battled the motive behind some of the things that God allows to happen especially to good people.

Last week, I received the sad news of the passing of a very good friend of mine, Ms. Christine Maina who was only 22 years old and was scheduled to graduate on June 27th 2015 from Daystar University.

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I met Christine in 2012 when we shared a few classes in Daystar University. Her calm demeanor and laid back nature captivated many. She loved God so much that most of her contributions in class invariably had an element of faith in them.

She was an easy going lady who kept a low profile. In fact, one could easily overlook her because of the simplicity with which she approached life and in so doing fail to discover the jewel that lay within her. She was diligent, intuitive, trusting and humble. She always tried to be at peace with everyone. Her integrity was beyond question. She never harbored any grudges. From time to time she would ask for my opinion on relationship issues and her love for God was the magnet that brought us close to each other.

Christine was confident and intelligent too. At school, her GPA was always high and she was set to graduate on the 27th of June 2015 with a Bachelors Degree in Commerce with a major in Marketing. The last time I saw her, she was handing in her internship report at school. She was so full of life and so excited about finally being done with school but as fate would have it, she will never get to wear her graduation gown.

It’s very hard to come to terms with Christine’s death. Why would God want another angel by his side when he has many and the world desperately needed Christine to live a little longer? Who is going to feel the void of her gentleness in this cruel world where self-centered interests dominate? How are we going to replace her clean and pure heart in a world where men’s heart are overflowing with deceit? How are we going to comfort the family which has lost a leading light? It’s always heartbreaking when parents bury their children. The tragedy is unbearable where parents have to bury their only daughter and with her the dreams of walking her down the aisle, handing her over to her husband and seeing her raise a successful family and even climbing the corporate ladder.

But in the midst of all these unanswered questions, I know that God’s sovereign will happened in her life. In our minds, we may not be able to understand the mind of God, but we can rest in the fact that He holds the future in His hands and knows best. The lessons flowing in my mind right now are these

Show love to those people who matter

Most of us spend lots of time chasing people and things that don’t really matter. We spend money on people who do not care about us yet such resources could be better spent caring for people who really matter. We spend money that we don’t have on things we don’t need and all this just to impress those who don’t care about us. To all my friends, if I’ve never said that I care about you, know today that I do. Would the people you spend all your energies on shed a tear if you died today? If your back was pushed to the wall, how many people would come through for you? There is no point in spending time and energy on the people who really would not hurt when you do.

Live your purpose

Life is too short to do something you don’t love, to get stuck in a toxic relationship, to get stuck in a dead end job simply because you must put bacon on the table. Deep within you there is unrest but you choose to hang on. Many of us are stuck in a rut, never doing that which we are cut out for. Take calculated risks, do what you love at all costs, chase your dreams, run away and do what you love because, at the end of the day, this life was meant to be enjoyed. It will be extremely regrettable if you die without having accomplished the task you were born to do or worse still, never tapping the potential that was put in you by your Creator. Love more, forgive more, laugh often, serve more, give more and sacrifice often.

Honor God

We live in a generation where people don’t believe in absolute truth. Everything is relative and truth is only believed when it’s convenient. But one of the lessons I’ve learned through Christine’s death is that there is only one truth and it is that God exists and He will demand an account of how we lived our lives. Therefore, we cannot continue living as we please. We must honor God in all we do because this body is His temple. We are temporary custodians. Everything we do under the sun, whether good or bad will be judged by a holy God.

Where have you invested?

A number of us have invested in our image. The clothes we wear are expensive and trendy. We pour money into perfumes, make-up and material things. We invest in the latest cars and rush to purchase parcels of land so that we can gain respect from our peers.  We have bungalows fitted with latest furniture yet we can barely spare time to invest in other people’s lives. We are obsessed with how many followers we have on social media. We go to the latest hang out joints and brand ourselves as the “it” group. How I wish that we would spend more resources on the needy, give to the poor, love more, support a family, stand with those who are sick, give to charity among other investments that will outlive us.

How I wish that we would realize that we are mere mortal men, sojourners on this earth. Only that which is invested in others, will last forever. Leo Tolstoy put it this way, “The sole meaning of life is to serve humanity.

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