The first time I ever cried because of a rejection was when I was rejected from my dream school. The fact that I had gotten five other rejections did not even bother me as much as this one did. I went from bawling out loud to going to often excusing myself to go cry in my room.
Since then, I have received another rejection from the same school after reapplying, internship, grant and job application rejections and even then, the pain never seemed to dull.
And then it hit me! No one prepared me for the amount of rejection that comes along with adulting. No one tells you of the nights you will cry yourself to sleep when your student loan did not come through. Or of how a rejection from your crush will hurt like hell. No one tells you of the many times you will doubt the path you have taken. It took me a long time to get over some rejections while some took me a few hours. Regardless, I eventually learned the art of bouncing back and starting fresh.
Here are a few tips I have acquired along the way:
1. Do Not Compare Yourself With Others
While we often use our peers’ accomplishments as yardsticks to assess our own progress, we tend to forget that each one has their own story to write. We also forget that not everyone starts from the same spot and that our situations are completely different. We have to internalize the fact that we all have different struggles to through for us to emerge stronger.
2. Accept The Situation
Do not spend months moping about your situation. Cry to let out your disappointment but do not wallow in self-pity. This is easier said than done, however, we cannot change the situation. Instead, take the opportunity to learn from your mistakes.
3. Take Some Time Off
Depending on the situation, I find that taking some time off to concentrate on oneself is helpful. Do things that make you happy. This will help you keep your mind distracted from your emotions. You can also use this time to renew yourself and reset your goals.
4. Never Give Up
Again, this is easier said than done. From my experiences, I have found that the more I get rejected, the easier I find it to bounce back. I have learned to just go for an opportunity when I see it because there is nothing to lose. We should always remind ourselves that there are still myriads of opportunities out there.
This article was written by Capital Campus Correspondent Garnet Achieng’.