When it’s time to let go…

I skipped a meeting today, and I did it on purpose. My friends will all tell you that this is highly uncharacteristic of me. They actually tend to say that I’m punctual to a fault. I never miss meetings, and I am sure as hell never late. I’m the queen of making plans, and I take them all very seriously. I’ve been trying to organize this particular meeting for over a month. I have called, texted,… More...

Why did I sleep with him??

I was deeply engrossed in an episode of the drama series ‘Single Ladies’ when one of the characters made a comment that really got me thinking. While referring to a romantic relationship gone sour, one of the ladies asked a seemingly simple yet provocative question. “Why did I sleep with him?”. To which her friend responds “Girl that’s the title of my autobiography!!”. We’ve all had… More...

In love? You need a HIV test…

February 8, 2011 - When was the last time you went for an HIV test? The reason I ask is because that experience has a way of shocking your senses back into proper form in a way you wouldn’t believe.The whole idea seems pretty manageable when you think about it right? Drive to a VCT centre near you, pay 100 shillings, spend 10 minutes in pre-counselling, 15 minutes of waiting for the results… More...

Forfeiting Mr Right for Mr Right Now

January 25, 2011 - I think I may have realized why my good friend and I spend most of our Sunday afternoons eating our hearts out and complaining about how ‘all men are dogs’. It’s because we both stick to a poorly-written script and attract the same types of dogs into our lives over and over, and over again. Let me explain. I went to a fabulous party on Friday. You know the… More...

Dude, I may be dumb but not stupid!

November 22, 2010 - There’s a recent song by Rihanna in which she talks about being ‘stupid in love’. I must admit the first time I heard the song I thought it was ridiculous and made no sense. I mean how can the hook say ‘I may be dumb, but Im not stupid…’?? It wasn’t until this morning’s events that this phrase made complete sense for the first time.I… More...

Checking out of Heartbreak Hotel

November 9, 2010 - I’m still amazed at the fact that women have to have their hearts broken thirteen times before we can get it through our skulls that we should pay attention to all the red flags lining the path to the ever-too-familiar heartbreak hotel. I say this in the nicest possible way as I myself am still waiting to check-out from that hotel, seeing as I spent the weekend there. I blame… More...

Time to switch from sex life to love life?

May 10, 2010 - I had a very interesting night last night. Not memorable, just interesting. I know that because I woke up this morning in the same clothes I went out in, my hair smelling of smoke and my eyes unable to open fully. Which is exactly why I prefer staying home watching movies and drinking tea on a Saturday night. The whole process of getting all dolled up and spending a good portion of… More...

Ladies, men operate in a certain pattern

May 3, 2010 - Maybe it’s all the spy-related episodes of Burn Notice that I’ve been watching lately but there’s a theory I’m currently working on. For the past six months or so, I’ve been secretly researching the men who’ve come through my life and I have picked up on a pattern. Now I never used to be one to believe in the whole myth about the existence of the one,… More...

Being single can sharpen perspective

It’s a little after midnight as I write this. I’m staring into the mirror across the room wondering what I’m doing in bed while a good portion of my friends are out painting the town red. Then I stare at this page and realize it’s been a few months since I wrote my last article. I’ll explain why. Ladies and gentlemen, I am going through a very dry spell. We’ve all had them at some point… More...

Can your ex be your clande?

I used to think that chics who messed around with their exes had issues. That was up until I woke up in my ex’s bed this morning and wished I could slap myself across the face real quick. Ladies, you know what I’m talking about. These instances usually occur at a time when you’re in the dark depths of maneuvering the single life. You don’t have any serious prospects, no one… More...