The spiritual status of your relationship – is it meant to be?

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by Carmen Harra

Here are eight ways to know if your relationship is spiritually destined …

An old proverb says, “In life, God doesn’t give you the people you want. Instead, he gives you the people you need – to teach you, to hurt you, to love you, and to make you exactly the way you’re meant to be.”

Indeed, we know in our hearts that every event is for our ultimate good. Every experience, good or bad, is a learning lesson, and we can choose to search for the greater meaning behind what happens in our lives, or we can decide to close our eyes and miss what we’re meant to learn.

Sometimes, though, we go through experiences we’re unsure of.

This holds especially true in relationships, because we can never be sure of how they will end. We ask ourselves: Will this be a good or bad experience? How, if ever, will this relationship come to an end? Are my partner and I meant to be or am I losing my time while a better person is still out there?

These are difficult questions to answer, because, while a new relationship signals a beautiful, fresh beginning, you want to ensure that you’re in the right relationship. So on the one hand you’re excited, but on the other, you’re apprehensive. And this is perfectly normal.

Perhaps you’ve been in a relationship for a long time, and you’re still not certain if it’s meant to be. That’s fine, too. I have many clients who have been married for 10, 20, even 30 years, and they’re still not sure whether their partner is the right person for them!

Then again, you might not be in a relationship, but might be interested in someone in your workplace or community. How do you know if the interest is reciprocal? Is there a chance you could be with this person in the future?

Relationships are most often evaluated by physical compatibility, yet this is certainly not the first or only valid component. It is crucial that we learn how to identify whether we’re in the right relationship and be able to evaluate our relationships from a spiritual standpoint.

Here are eight ways to know if your relationship is spiritually destined …

1. Frequent arguing, angry outbursts and bickering

It’s NOT meant to be if: Your relationship is plagued by frequent arguing, constant disagreements, yelling, bickering, angry outbursts, or any form of violence. No matter how much you both swear you love each other and want to be together, unless the angry emotions are controlled, the relationship is not healthy for either party involved.

As long as your relationship doesn’t involve a daily display of anger, there should be no reason why it can’t continue forward

It IS meant to be if: Your relationship is mostly peaceful and harmonious. Everyone becomes angry once in a while, and that’s tolerable. And as long as your relationship doesn’t involve a daily display of anger, there should be no reason why it can’t continue forward.

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2. Dishonesty

It’s NOT meant to be if: Your partner is constantly dishonest with you. Pathological liars are characterised by serial dishonesty. And to them, a lie is simply easier to tell than the truth.

Everyone will get caught telling a little white lie here and there, but if your partner is repeatedly lying to you about where he or she is going, who he or she is seeing, and what he or she is doing, the relationship cannot get too far.

It IS meant to be if: The integrity of honesty is alive, and both of you place trust in each other’s words as being the truth.

3. A fair, balanced relationship

It’s NOT meant to be if: One side is always doing more than the other.

It IS meant to be if: Your relationship is fair and balanced, and both sides do their parts and put in the necessary amount of effort to keep the other person content.

4. Remembering the reasons why you fell in love

It’s NOT meant to be if: You no longer feel love for the person. Though you may stay with them for the sake of not splitting up, if the love is absent, you will feel a persistently nagging feeling that something is wrong.

Your relationship is NOT meant to be if one side is always doing more than the other

It IS meant to be if: You remember, each day, the reasons why you fell in love with this person, and the feelings have remained the same over time.

5. Addiction and unhealthy behaviour

It’s NOT meant to be if: There is any form or addiction or unhealthy behaviour present. It can become extremely difficult to live with, for example, an alcoholic or a person who suffers from bipolar disorder in the long run, and these forms of unhealthy lifestyles take their toll on both persons involved: they not only hurt the person who suffers from the condition, but they also hurt the person who watches over them and suffers for them.

It IS meant to be if: Both partners are of a pure mind, body, and soul, and understand the importance of physical and mental health.

6. Is your relationship alive on a mental note?

It’s NOT meant to be if: The person doesn’t engage you, intrigue you, or mentally stimulate you in any way. Relationships have to be alive on a mental note just as much as in the physical sense.

If your love interest doesn’t provoke your thoughts in the least bit, it probably isn’t a compatible match

It IS meant to be if: Your partner can stir up your mental senses with their philosophies, wisdoms, and everyday life learnings. We were meant to match each other on a brain level, too!

7. It all comes down to intuition

It’s NOT meant to be if: Your own intuition is telling you not to get involved in this relationship. Always trust your intuition, no matter how far it may be from the reality of the moment.

It IS meant to be if: Your gut feeling is that this is a person you’re destined to grow with, learn from, and embark on many adventures with.

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