#Soften Up
It’s impossible to have an authentic connection with someone who is playing a role and has defensive walls up. You are not more desirable because you act cold, tough, and aloof and have your vulnerability and emotions locked up in a vault.  People mistaken softness for weakness, but do not understand that authenticity and vulnerability require incredible strength and courage. You want to build rapport? Show your human side. The perfect and invincible visage on display delays connection, and the people drawn to that image are likely the ones you don’t want to attract in the long run.

#Stop Objectifying Yourself
You may be objectifying yourself without even knowing it. When you present your status, money, or physical beauty as your primary asset, you display your value to the world as an object first, human second. While this may garner attention and even attraction from others, it can be extremely difficult for someone to see past the superficial and connect with your essence – your actual self. When someone objectifies you and bases their attraction on that, you are easily replaced as it’s impossible to build loyalty to an object. And if you were to ever lose that superficial quality, chances are, you’d lose that person’s interest in you as well.

Lastly, one of the best ways to evolve and become the best version of you is through your relationships. The people you get close to become your greatest mirror, reflecting back to you your insecurities, trigger points and areas that need work. Don’t let the fear of rejection stop you from opportunities to meet people who can help you evolve. Be bold. Remember, you only need one person to give you a chance.

 

 

 

 

 

Authored by  Amy of JustMyType