Little by little one of you might also start getting attached to each other and forget about the ‘contract’ they had earlier agreed on. Then trouble starts brewing in paradise. What was once seen as a casual hook-up might start evolving into a series of insecure and hurtful emotions. It gets old and emotionally drenching to have what you don’t own so to speak. It’s like renting a movie that you know you have to return to the store. You might love it, but it still will never be yours. And what happens when you spoil it? Simple; you have to pay.

Same goes for such ‘arrangements’, you might think that you are ready to deal with such issues but what you are doing is just postponing the inevitable. You cannot expect to treat a relationship like a contract and get away with it scot free. You cannot do friends with benefits and still expect that it will lead to something more serious. Why buy time being friends and what you do is basically what people in a relationship do? Why the cover name and pretence? Does it make it sexier that you are not lovers but friendly lovers? I’m not condemning anything here, just giving a few pointers that one should be careful in such matters.

The solution, I think, is to explore your emotions about the other person without rushing into any unnecessary agreements. If what you feel is truly genuine, then it won’t be hard to settle for a relationship. But under no circumstance should you agree to use and test the other person in your quest to see if things will work out. Chances are that deep down you know they won’t and you are probably a coward for not telling the other person how you truly feel about them.